When I read the title, i thought we were in for a dv control type story. This is just as sad though. How stressful it must be for him.
My partner works full time and I am currently a stay at home mum with 2 babies. But I’m up at 4.30 5 am to start my day with our children. I couldn’t even imagine sleeping in till 10am

This is a single sided story, hard to have an opinion about this

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 03 Dec 2022 , 6:03 am

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  I agree, balance is needed, there is always different sides.

I see issues with both parents here. If I was the Mum I would be upset with my husband spying on me and telling me how to look after my child but that being said I would not be leaving my child wake in their cot while I slept the morning away.

I don’t think I would like my husband checking up on me at home. But sounds like the toddler is use to staying in the crib and waiting. It obviously is just the dads side to the story though.

There appear to be so many odd things about this article, lack of communication, trust, being on the same page with parenting styles and so on.

It sounds like the mother isn’t coping. It would be difficult being the sole parent 6 days a week for 12 hours a day. The dad is also concerned about his child but didn’t mention he was concerned about his wife not coping. Maybe some professional support would be helpful in this situation

I would love to hear the mothers point of view. Sometimes I often wake up to my son calling for me in the morning.
How do you know how long they have been laying there for? ????????‍♀️

Poor little boy having to wait that long before his mum comes in to get him. 🙁

This makes me feel so sad for the son! I really sympathise with the dad!

My first thought was “wow, I can’t believe this guy micromanages his wife” but after reading through the whole article I think he’s a really great and caring Dad. How awful that their poor child has to wait for his mum to come and grab him once it suits her. The poor baby is on her routine, when the routine really should be about him.

There is alway 2 side to a story but I couldn’t imagine leaving my lilttle one for that long. But I wonder would she even hear him if he was crying if it takes 2-3 phone calls to wake her. That’s scary. I can understand whey the dad does check on him.

What is the rest of the story here? Why does she sleep late? Is she up through the night?

That’s just not right at all. A baby in a cot is way too young to be ignored for so long. Scary.

I found this really disturbing and upsetting to read. I hate knowing there are baby’s being neglected – hours of waiting is very traumatic for a baby, and just as another reader mentioned this baby has this experience normalised which is depressing. Normally any sort of tracking/ monitoring like the dad is doing could be considered DV (if it’s a pattern of coercive control), but in this case it just sounds like a dad concerned about his baby, with good reason. Professional support, counsellor, even a nanny perhaps to help. The baby deserves better, he is the innocent one being harmed in this scenario imo.

Sounds very odd, but I do wonder why the wife isn’t awake when hubby leaves of a morning? Is this just the routine she’s fallen into. Hard to say much without knowing the entire days routine for everyone involved. But then my son wakes at 4am plays for a bit in his cot and then yells for a bottle and to start the day so there is no way I’d be leaving him for an hour or more.

I’m not sure what to think. There are always two sides of a story. And I can only read his side here.

This is a hard one as I agree with the dad that it isn’t nice to see his kid just sitting in his crib waiting while mum sleeps but on the other hand I would be very annoyed if I got a daily call too. Perhaps they nee professional advice on how to manage this situation in a positive way.

Divided with this one. I wouldn’t want to be watched or checked up on but I feel sorry for the son as well. My kids would be screaming murder if I left them alone for a minute but then again they are super clingy.

It’s creepy that he’s on the app checking in but at the same time mum should be attending to her child when he’s awake. You can’t leave the kids alone waiting for 1-2hrs.

Not sure I’d be comfortable leaving bub awake in their cot for a hour or more. Who knows how long baby would be there if dad didn’t call