I did find it difficult going to work while my boys were young. I’d have to pay a babysitter at first and in my lunch hour I’d have to come home, do dishes and hang out any washing I’d done in the morning plus peel veges ready for when I came home. Once home I’d have to get tea started, get the boys cleaned up and serve tea when my husband got home. Then once they were in bed it was time to do a bit of housework. I would have loved to be a SAHM but it wasn’t possible. There’s no way I’d be able to do afford to do it these days unless my husband was earning a lot of money.

I tend to agree however the isolation can be difficult at times and everyone’s experience is different. But for me.. I loved being a stay at home mum!

I agree. I never had huge issues being a stay at home mum. Sure it has its tough moments, but I think the benefits far out weigh the negatives. I loved it

Every family is different so we shouldn’t be so quick to judge. While it might be easy for this SAHM, it’s not always the case for everyone, just like going to work won’t necessarily be the easier option for another mother.

I have done both and there are for and againsts for both sides of the coin.

I loved being at home with my four children and being able to easily go to school fetes and concerts and sports days and outings, but it was often quite hard to balance the income with the expenditure at times. So can understand the comments of some SAHM’s.

I also found great pleasure in holding down a corporate job while juggling my time with my four beautiful children and the great sense of satisfaction of not only my job, but also being able to contribute to the family funds.

And this was more than 30 years ago!

It is a ‘horses for courses’ sort of lifestyle and to each their own and no-one should be derogatory to another until they have walked in their shoes.

Everyone’s circumstances are very different.

That’s awesome for that mum. But how does she know that mothers 30 years ago weren’t stressed?? I personally think every parent (typically mothers) from the beginning of time were stressed. Each individual brings their own way of doing things, thoughts and feelings. We’re all stressed about one thing or another. She is a content creator, this was done for exposure, and now I’ve bought into the hype too…

Tiffany’s certainly entitled to her opinion, but we need to make sure we remember we all have such different circumstances – the ways we cope, finances, kids needs, support from family and partner.
Wondering if comments like hers would make some SAHMs feel pretty crappy which I don’t like, especially if they’re not coping with the challenges and isolation of being a SAHM.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 23 Aug 2024 , 7:54 am

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  Her comment should not make other SAHMs feel crappy. We should never give someones comment such power. We have the power to say this is her opinion and not mine, her message is not for me, I throw her opinion in the bin.

I must say that in most cases I would agree. The only time it would be hard is with special needs kids. I did have a couple hard days with newborns, but once they are in a routine, everything is bliss! I miss it!

Every child and parent is different. Every parent struggles and has their moments. It’s not easy it can be very isolating but it’s also very rewarding to be able to raise your own children if you are able to

I’ve been a stay at home mum for many years and am still full time carer of my youngest who has a disability. I love it, but cxertainly wouldn’t say it comes without challenge

As many have said everyone’s situation and circumstances are different, there’s little room for comparison when there are a lot of variables what is challenging for some may be easier for others. You never know what’s going on behind closed doors is so easy to judge or make assumptions.

I mean she’s not wrong but you have to have the right circumstances. I’m a SAHM and we live on my partners income. I’d rather be poor so I can spend time with my child. I didn’t have a baby to pay a stranger to raise him. If I did, imagine how many things I’d miss out on. I know there are women out there who have no choice for day care and that’s why every circumstance is unique. But yes, as a SAHM I don’t find it hard. It’s east being a mum because that’s all I’ve ever wanted.

Each family situation is different and there are many factors that could alter a individual situation – environment, financial support, family support, behaviour of children involved and so much more.

Everyone’s daily lives are very different. Being a sahm isn’t exactly the same for every sahm. Bold statements like this just generate lots of attention.

Each to their own. We do the best we can do for our situation.

For me, I’d choose being a SAHM all day, everyday. Dealing with people I love vs people I’m forced to tolerate is a no brainer!

NOt only is it different for everyone, it can be different at different stages.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 22 Aug 2024 , 4:52 am

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  I agree; different stages bring new challenges.

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    • • Ellen replied
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    Yes, each stage brings different challenges and joys

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    • • mom93821 replied
      • 23 Aug 2024 , 4:50 am

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    Such a good and well rounded point; joys and challenges for sure!

Everyone’s situation is different so if that works for her great but you can’t just assume it’ll be the same for everyone.

Hard to get a full picture, what was her job prior to sahm. If medical (as said patients) I could understand. As a mum navigating being a sahm for the first time I have my challenges and little sleep or down time, but comparing it to those around me who work corporate jobs it’s a different level of stress. We all have such individual circumstances.