Although I’ve been blessed with a tribe of little ones and ample opportunity to learn how to put in a dummy… I just don’t actually know how to do it correctly.

I pop it in, it pops right out. I gently sneak it in whilst they’re asleep at my boob, they gently spit it out the second I think I’ve succeeded!

So then I wait until they’re screaming at the top of their little lungs, thinking THAT is the opportune moment to rescue the baby with their dummy- just like they do in the movies… and of course, the baby only screams louder the moment I bring the pacifier close to them!

I’ve decided that you need to be some kind of professional mother to know the knack of installing a soother. It’s not for everyone. It doesn’t come naturally AND there aren’t any clear cut instructions on the package that the dummy arrives in!

How do the manufacturers expect me to know how to install it!?

Even though none of my babies know what to do with one, I still carry a dummy in my handbag – mainly so that I fit in. So that I look the part of a mother who has herself together. One who knows what she’s doing and has all her things in order.

No Dummies Allowed!

I think I might still be feeling some confusion after my hospital experience with my first born. I remember quite clearly that dummies were not permitted to be used in that particular hospital and you had to agree not to bring one with you prior to the birth.

They claimed all these various different things, and I went along with it because, well, rules are rules. And all I was really focused on was the birth and wellbeing of the baby.

But little did the hospital know that it tainted me for life – it made me the only mum in the world with a baby that doesn’t accept a dummy!

In all honesty, I have absolutely no idea what precisely dummies do. But I do know that as a child, my favourite doll came with one. And I was really looking forward to using one with my real life baby the way I did with my doll.

Why Doesn’t It Stick?

Babies place absolutely EVERYTHING in their mouths. It just feels like such an insult that I can’t get a single pacifier to stick!

It’s ok though, maybe we could just connect on how adorable babies look whilst sucking on their soothers. They are quite possibly the cutest accessory a baby could have, as well as being the symbol of a parent’s perseverance- you somehow got it to stick, against all odds, go you!

Did/does your child love their dummy? Tell us in the comments below.

  • I tried 3 times to get my children to use a dummy for my own piece of mind. They were not dummy babies


  • My first loved it and my second wouldn’t have a bar of it


  • Every child is so different. We didn’t use a dummy for my first born he just didn’t take to it and wasn’t interested but my second uses it for every sleep. If they seem fine without it maybe just see how things go, take the pressure of yourself.


  • We gave up after only trying a few times. Our little one just spat it our – I am so glad that despite having many to choose from they were all gifts or freebies!!!


  • You’re not alone, our daughter would spit it out so we threw it out. I just figured if milk wasn’t coming out of it then she wasn’t interested. No need to feel insulted, to each their own and at least we never had the problem of trying to wean them off a dummy.


  • I didn’t give my daughter a dummy and then at 2yrs old she found her thumb…I don’t know how to get rid of the thumb sucking :(


  • Sometimes it’s just the baby. One of mine loved his, another wasn’t having a barof it, and one we just didn’t offer it to.


  • My boys had dummies but my daughter didn’t want it, she found her thumb instead which was just as easy to get her to stop like the boys and their dummy


  • I’m confused by the desire to use a dummy so much. I understand if that is your choice to help bubs with soothing, sleep issues or whatever it may be. I think you should be happy that your baby doesn’t need one. I never used one with my son he wouldn’t know what it is and that was my choice. Count your self lucky you will not have to battle your child to ween them off a dummy or potential teeth problems I have seen both in other children. Also enjoy the beautiful smile of your bub I don’t agree a soother is a cute accessory, when it’s hiding the cutest feature on their face.


  • I was told dummies weren’t recommended before 6 weeks to avoid confusion with the nipple. My bub is 9 weeks and he is not accepting the dummy yet. Does it matter if they don’t want it? I had the idea that if you can do without it then it’s all good.


  • Our first bub never took to a dummy, I kind of thought it strange, bit I wasn’t going to force it on him…
    Our second, who is almost 6 months old has a dummy, and one of my biggest regrets was giving him one…
    When he wakes sometimes 8 times in the night just because he wants his dummy, it drives me nuts! He otherwise sleeps through the night, he only wakes because of the dummy and I hate it!
    I know I should think myself lucky that I can give him the dummy and he goes right back to sleep, and I dont have to be up for ages feeding or resettling him, but it really is annoying, I will be trying to wean him off it very soon as I just dont want to deal with it anymore!


  • I never used a dummy for my children so don’t know if this is a joke or not. I just assumed you put the dummy in their mouth and they begin sucking, with the belief it will eventually lead to milk.

    Learn new things every day


  • My first Son had his dummy til he turned 9 months old, he just turned his head away and refused it completely which was good really as I didn’t have to wean him off it. My 2nd son had his dummy until he turned 2 1/2 and I threw them all away and bought him a big boys cup but it was hard and seemed like months of him finding one and then me having to sneak it to the bin but we got their. My twins had dummy’s til nearly 3 which was too long. My now 2 year old son who turned 2 April 16th this year is still using his dummy but my husband and I are very close to getting rid of the dummies.


  • I used a pacifier for my youngest son when he was born. At 3 months old he just spat it out. Never bought him another one. Not all babies like them so I wouldn’t worry about it


  • My son had and loved his dummy. It was a lifesaver for a child who screamed 24/7 until he was about 1. Maybe your child just doesn’t want a dummy – and it’s being spat out or refused involuntarily. That’s okay. You haven’t failed at it. Your bub may just not want it.


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