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A first time mum refused to let her husband watch the birth of their first child after he pulled a prank in the delivery room. And it’s caused their marriage to disintegrate.

The 23-year-old mum says her 24-year-old husband was amazing during her pregnancy – excited, supportive and caring for nine months. The only issue they had was that he’d become ‘slightly obsessed’ with YouTube and TikTok videos of husbands pulling pranks on their wives while in labour.

“I didn’t mind at first but then he started casually joking about doing things he saw in the videos saying it would be funny. I clearly stated my distaste for them and asked him not to do anything like what he saw,” she explained on reddit.

“He agreed and continued to joke about it time to time but I brushed it off since I trusted him and thought nothing would come of it. The day of the delivery came and I had been in labour for eight hours (12 hours total labour). I had just finished another round of contractions when my husband let out the loudest fart, turned to me and said, ‘What the hell have you been eating? It smells disgusting!” I immediately recognised that as one of the pranks in the videos.

“Outraged at him not honouring what I asked him not to do I demanded that he leave the room. He started arguing saying it was just a joke but I insisted and luckily the nurse helped get him out.”

‘He was fuming’

The furious mum endured the last four hours of her labour on her own, with no family support. She refused to allow her husband back into the room until after the birth.

“After the delivery I told the nurse he could come back into the room and he was fuming. He started demanding that I tell him why I kicked him out. I calmly told him the reason but he was pissed. He hasn’t talked to me in a week. His mum is taking his side saying that I was a complete bitch for kicking him out. Normally he will defend me from her but this time he completely agreed. I might be the asshole because I know how much he was looking forward to being there for the birth of our first kid and especially when he got to cut the cord, but I still kicked him out and refused to let him back in. The nursed asked a few times if I wanted him back but each time I said no.

“If he had been apologetic in anyway I would have let him come back into the delivery room. And the nurse checked on him but he was sulking and complaining that I did that.”

‘I took the baby and left’

The new mum has since updated the precarious situation, explaining that her husband bonded with the baby, but hadn’t been helping. She said the first week was rough, but her mum arrived to help out, as her husband was still ignoring her.

“I talked to my husband and told him how I was feeling (I have been feeling depressed and anxious since we brought the baby home) and that I understood why he was upset but asked him to please see my side. He told me that I had no right to kick him out and that our daughter would come to hate me one day for having him miss her birth. I started crying and begged him to please talk things through instead of saying things out of anger.

“He refused and said I was under his roof so he had the final say and called me a c*** for kicking him out of the delivery room. I didn’t say anything else to him I just started packing myself and the baby’s things and planned on leaving. He yelled telling me that I couldn’t take anything he paid for (I haven’t worked since the start of the pandemic).

“I just took the baby and told my mum we were leaving. We are staying at a motel and will drive to my parents house tomorrow.”

What do you think of this situation? Was the mum justified? And should she have left her husband? Let us know in the comments below. 

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  • This is so sad to read. The birth of a baby is meant to be a happy time and this turned situation turned so so bad. It’s a tough situation. He totally disrespected her by pulling a prank during her labour but for her to kick him out is going a little too far. They both have a right to be upset and it’s a shame their relationship could be over because of it.

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  • What an obnoxious, arrogant, self-centred idiot he is. Until he can birth a child, he does not get to make fun of it. He was asked not to, told in fact, but didn’t care. Clearly it was more about him than his wife and child. Good on her for standing her ground. I’m so sorry she found out what he was truly like, during childbirth.

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  • How do this couple expect to maintain a healthy relationship as parents, when they are not respectful of each others needs? I hope that they get some help and guidance to support them with their relationship.

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  • She overreacted. It’s his child too, and I would’ve let that childish behaviour slide in order for him to experience it, too. Seriously though, her man is still an ass. Its a stressful time, and you just brought a baby into the world, they both need to focus their energy on the baby then this drama.

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  • Things in life are about how we get through and over arguments that arise id explain this to him and see if you can both drop the topic and move on. You need to just discuss if you want to be a family living together or not, if so move on.

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  • This has escalated way out of control. I think things could have been handled better and anger should not have been allowed to fester. The prank was inappropriate, but it was a small thing. I know emotions run a bit hot in the delivery room, but he could have been let back in. I’m sure he would have felt sorry when he realised how much it upset her. However, he needs to get over what happened and fences need to be mended. I think it’s really sad that ultimately a fart has resulted in a mother and new baby leaving. They need to forgive each other and the hubby needs to be supportive and help more with the new bub. It sounds like he’s still very angry and is being purposely hurtful. He also has no right to say she can’t take anything ‘he paid for’. It’s 50/50.

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  • I doubt if the pranks had have stopped at 1 and when mum and bubs went home would he have done another prank that could have seriously gone wrong. to tell her to leave with nothing means that there was a lot more underlying problems. yes it will be hard but easier to love and care for 1 child than 2(hubby) I hope things can be worked out but the damage is done. As trust is very big.

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  • The incident was handed very poorly by both parties and has now escalated into the wife leaving. Both need to stop behaving like children, grow up as they have a newborn that needs their love and care.

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  • He knew exactly why you asked him to be removed from the delivery room. What an A-hole! And to then be so petulant, childish and downright nasty – ugh. Maninpulative and disloyal man child. His loss, no loss.

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  • For sure she was right to leave. She told him no pranks – anyway how dare he even think of pranks when his partner is in labour (excruciating pain that NO Man could imagine or even go through themselves). He is a immature mummies boy – which is clear when his mother took his side in this immature prank. His mother has a lot to answer for also considering she has been in labour herself and know what it is like.
    How Dare they. She is better off without both of those narcissistic people! You go girl – you are better off without both of those idiots. Shame on Them both

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  • Good luck for the future sometimes you’ve got to do what you’ve got to do.

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  • She asked him not to do anything but he was childish and did it anyway. Just because you see something that you think is funny, doesn’t mean others will think it’s funny. She should have told him to get out until he was ready to apologise for making fun of her while feeling venerable. She also should have let him back in just before the baby was born

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  • I think they both handled the situation poorly and I attribute some of it to their ages and some to the stress of the labour. For the sake of their child I hope they are able to work on their relationship and at least be amicable.

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  • Such drastic action over something silly. I wish the new mum and baby daughter all the best.

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  • Oh my goodness, something seemingly to small blew up into something massive….indicating deeper problems

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