You and your husband are doing what you can to protect your daughter even before she’s old enough to know what people would be talking about. I believe you are both doing the right thing so don’t worry yourself. Wonder how your MIL would have felt if she had to grow up using that surname. Congratulations on your wonderful news too

i have 3 kids from previous marriage and i went onto have 2 more kids to another relationship and they have my surname which is my ex husbands surname and my mil had a hissy fit about having another man’s surname for her grandchild but i didn’t care and my partner didn’t care as he hated his surname , my child , my choice

I think you are looking after your daughter, and your husband is being appropriately supportive.

Totally sensible because you are right, a young girl with a surname that is easily sexualised will without a doubt, be teased and taunted throughout her entire high school experience. I wouldn’t waste any worry over the temper tantrum your in-laws are pulling. It’s nothing to do with them and they won’t be the ones having to hold your child’s hand as they are bullied.

If it’s a mutual decision between you and your husband that’s fine, but I don’t really see what’s so bad about the name? A tit is a type of bird. It would be like getting upset over the name Johnson because it can be used to refer to a male private part.

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  • • bankstownbrats replied
    • 02 May 2024 , 11:48 pm

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  yeah you don’t usually hear teen boys saying johnson much but tit or with the s on the end more so

Not proud of him . Another shallow coward he deserves better than you .And so does the kid

At the end of the day its your decision on who’s surname the child gets. The In-laws need to just accept it, it’s not their child.

Wow, so much thought put into the smallest thing these days. It’s a name for heavens sake, yes there may be some teasing, but its just a name at the end of the day

You and your husband need to stand by your decision. Your child, your choice. The in-laws will either come to accept it or they won’t – if not, it’s not your issue. Family names end, it’s a part of life.

If you went with the last name it could make her a target. As long as your husband is okay with the situation then I don’t see a problem.

If its whats best for the child then so be it. Not every tradition will work for every family.

In the end it’s you and your husband’s decision. My married surname resembles a rude word and unfortunately, my daughter was teased at school.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 02 May 2024 , 7:45 am

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  I’m sorry to hear that happened to her. Kids can be cruel.

You are putting your child first and sometimes people don’t like the choice but if it’s the right one for your child it’s the right one. I know a few people who have changed names to stop bullying and none have regretted it. You’re already a great Mum looking out for your baby.

There is no reason to carry on a “tradition “ that doesn’t help you or your child.

Stick to your guns and call your child what you want. They are being very silly really as you are having a girl who would change her name to her new husband’s name at the tick of a hat and their name will die out anyway.