'I Lied To My MIL About Our Baby's Gender - And The Truth Came Out At The Reveal Party'

An expecting mum has shared how her baby’s gender reveal party turned into a slanging match with her mother-in-law, after the ‘lie’ she told her was exposed.

The mum-to-be says she didn’t really want a gender reveal party, but her husband’s family were making a big deal about it, so she agreed.

“My mother-in-law was convinced that I knew the gender and insisted I tell her. I totally didn’t and I told her that fact,” she explained.

“She wore me down after a month of bothering me about it. She begged me and promised that she wouldn’t tell anyone. This was all in texts. I told her it was a girl.

“I figured it was a 50/50 chance and it would get he off my back.

“Well she lied. When we cut the cake to reveal a blue inside there was a really awkward silence. She had told literally all of the guests from her side of the family so they could bring appropriate gifts.”

While the expecting mum’s family and friends gathered around her to congratulate her on her baby boy, her mother-in-law was fuming.

“She came over and hissed at me that I made her look stupid. I reminded her that she had PROMISED not to tell anyone.”

“She said she had never promised so I showed her our text conversation. Some of he family were right there when I did that so they heard her admit that she lied and had never intended to keep that promise.

“She said that it was a dick move and that I only did it to embarrass her. I again reminded her that I had told her on multiple occasions that I did not know the gender.

“My husband wants me to apologise to keep the peace. I probably will but I don’t think I was an a**hole like she seems to think.”

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37 Comments

- - Lividanke said
  - 07 Jul 2023
    4:23 pm
I’m not a fan of the whole gender reveal parties etc these days. We actually didn’t find out the gender of our kids and when I would get people nagging me I could honestly say that I didn’t know. I know at one stage my MIL thought we’d found out and wouldn’t tell, so each and every time when someone asked what was I having I’d say ‘I’m having a baby’. I recall even saying that line when I was waiting for a c section and the hospital staff asking me!

- - mom101628 said
  - 08 Jun 2023
    11:56 pm
Well, it ended up a lose/lose situation here. I would have kept saying, I don’t know, and I don’t want to know. This relationship with your MIL isn’t going to get any better now.

- - MandaMags said
  - 31 May 2023
    7:31 pm
Wow that’s funny, I would loved to have been there for that.

- - rovermum said
  - 31 May 2023
    10:04 am
I hate these gender reveals. If you do happen to find out, it’s not really any one else’s business. This MIL is already showing her true colours. I’m sorry for the Grandma she’s going to be, obviously!

- - alrevedup said
  - 31 May 2023
    1:28 am
She is 100% the a hole

- - mom103778 said
  - 30 May 2023
    3:30 pm
How hilarious, she did promise not to tell. I hope she didn’t receive too many gifts a little boy cannot wear.

- - MummaD said
  - 30 May 2023
    1:52 pm
I am thankful I get along with my MIL

- - tessie said
  - 30 May 2023
    1:49 pm
The person in the wrong here was your MIL, not you. You kept telling her you didn’t know but she kept pushing so I don’t see what you have to apologise for. At least you kept the texts so you had proof of what she said. If you ask me, she’s the one who should apologise to you.

- - Bizma said
  - 30 May 2023
    9:23 am
Why are some MILs like that? First you force her, then you make a promise and then you break it and embarrass yourself and go about the victim approach. So sad

- - sars_angelchik said
  - 30 May 2023
    8:47 am
Well, the MIL wouldn’t take her word for it when she didn’t know and then she went and told everyone- that was the real dick move.

- - Ellen said
  - 30 May 2023
    7:55 am
Staying by the truth that you didn’t know the gender would have been easier. I would have asked your husband to deal with his mum.

- - Mum.of.2. said
  - 30 May 2023
    5:42 am
She never knew the gender and she told her MIL that the MIL should’ve let it go and respected their decision to find out at the party.

- - Danicastefanie said
  - 30 May 2023
    5:20 am
I find this hilarious. Her mother in law should have accepted her first answer of not knowing the gender. Its her own fault for being a pest. I think its funny.

- - ~Loui~ said
  - 30 May 2023
    3:38 am
What a ridiculous argument. This woman should have been much more assertive in the first place and the MIL should respect her wishes.

- - mom169205 said
  - 30 May 2023
    12:43 am
Very unnecessary all of it why cause trouble pointless annoying Mil

- - mom468170 said
  - 29 May 2023
    9:02 pm
I think you did right, I told my mil at the time it was a boy, lucky it was as my mil was even worse than yours she tried to take over everything but I wouldn’t let her. Anyway don’t you dare say sorry to her or believe me she will think she’s won and want to take over just like mine tried. By the way congratulations on your baby girl.

- - cassy26 said
  - 29 May 2023
    11:54 am
While you probably shouldn’t have lied to her, she shouldn’t have told everyone either. I guess now you have a lot of gifts that you probably cant use and she looks bad. Nobody really wins here.

- - mom465794 said
  - 29 May 2023
    9:54 am
I wouldn’t have told her anything

- - mom57569 said
  - 28 May 2023
    9:16 pm
Why does hubby want you to apologise, considering MIL promised not to tell and then did. She should be the one apologise to you. Also if you didn’t know the sex of the baby, MIL should have taken notice and just left it at that.

- - Julzie13 said
  - 28 May 2023
    1:14 pm
That’s pretty funny, especially when people go out of their way to be rude and pushy, to get caught out in front of everyone their lie.