An angry mum is refusing to let her parents meet their grandchild, because they won’t get their Whooping Cough vaccination before the baby is born.

The 23-year-old first time mum says she and her fiancé were thrilled to find out they were expecting, after being told by three specialists that she would never be able to have children due to her PCOS and endometriosis.

“I’m about five-months into my pregnancy and have told close friends and family that if they want to see bubs before he has his vaccinations that they will need to have their Whooping Cough vaccine,” she explained on reddit.

“My fiancé’s family were all on board no questions asked. My parents however have kicked up a major fuss, stating that I’m selfish and that they will just show up to my house and demand that I let them in to see my baby. My parents don’t believe it’s necessary to have the vaccine and that I’m being a control freak.

“They have also said that I can’t wrap my baby up in cotton wool forever, which I understand but what is upsetting to me is that they speak down towards me and invalidate my feelings by saying it’s because I’m a young mum.”

‘You’ll be a terrible mother’

She further explains that her parents haven’t actually been involved in her pregnancy at all – in fact, they have gone so far as to call their daughter a ‘terrible mother’.

“My parents have shown a lack of interest in my pregnancy and just anything to do with my baby all together which has been extremely hurtful and frustrating. I’m at a loss and I don’t know wether I should cut them out of my life completely or if I’m overreacting.

“I should also add that I was in nursing school completing my degree when I found out I was pregnant, I had to drop out due to being extremely ill. My parents have asked me why I didn’t abort my child when I found out I was pregnant as well as often putting me down as a person saying I’ll be a terrible mother.

“I just don’t understand how I’m selfish for wanting to put my child’s health first? My fiancé also agrees with me that anyone wanting to see bubs before his immunisations will need the vaccine.”

The woman now wants to know whether she’s being unreasonable by not allowing her parents to meet their grandchild when he arrives.

What do you think? Let us know in the comments.

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  • That was our only rule…no vax..no visits .. lucky everyone understood thay


  • After the way she explained her parents feel then I would just say don’t come see the baby ever if you wanted me to abort it.


  • This young Mum is not being unreasonable or selfish – her parent however, are.


  • Not the nicest of parents to say you should have aborted your child and for saying you’ll be a terrible Mother. I’d stick to my guns and not allow them any visitation unless they get vaccinated. You are not overreacting and I’d have nothing more to do with them. Sounds like the best ones are your in-laws. Don’t let them upset you and just enjoy your pregnancy with your fiance’ and his parents. Your so called parents can meet him after he is born and had all of his vaccines.


  • Asking you why you didn’t abort your child is disgraceful! They should be supporting you and vaccine aside, they don’t deserve to see their grandchild.


  • Screw your parents! The fact that you aren’t allowing them to see your child without getting the whooping cough vaccine shows that you will be an amazing mother!!!


  • OMG, I am so sorry for your parents behaviour. This is just apalling. You need to concentrate on your pregnancy, your mental health and your physical health and that means steering clear of your family. That’s okay. More families than you know are actually dysfunctional. YOu are blessed with a pregnancy and want to deliver a healthy baby, devoid of stress, etc. You get to set the boundaries. This is just the start — if they won’t listen to you on this, clearly they won’t listen to you on other issues. Stand your ground.


  • I think as a parent your choices should be respected because you’re just trying to be cautious around a newborn


  • That’s totally fair! We had the same rule until our baby was old enough to be vaccinated for it. So anyone who didn’t want it had to wait!


  • Good on you! Stand up for your baby


  • Good on to this Mama for looking out for her child & trying to put it’s heath & safety first. I don’t think she’s being unreasonable at all.
    We asked our families to do the same before the arrival of our kids & thankfully everyone agreed.
    I think these grandparents sound entitled & controlling. Wanting a baby aborted now saying they’ll demand to visit & see their grandchild.


  • The selfishness and entitlement of some people. If you don’t want to get immunized – and protect your grandaughter – then don’t get in a big huff if the parents don’t want you to see them. Whooping Cough can kill babies, why is that so difficult for them to understand? The mind boggles.


  • Immunisation is on one side and the overall behaviour is another. I mean you are so keen on meeting your grandchild but you were the one who asked why she didn’t abort? Daughter’s parents plays such important role during these times as usually she is more comfortable and is pampered by her parents. Neways, I don’t think she is selfish at all. All the best girl!!


  • The grandparents are being totally selfish – whooping cough can be a killer ….


  • Whooping cough for little bubs can be very serious indeed. As mum, it’s totally okay and necessary for her to advocate on behalf of her little one. If the grandparents dont like it, it is their choice.


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