A mum, who was enjoying her first child-free meal out after having her second baby, says she was called an a**hole after asking to move away from a crying baby at a restaurant.

The mum-of-two says she and her husband had been looking forward to their dinner out at a ‘very nice, fancy restaurant’, and had organised a babysitter so they could enjoy themselves.

“It was the first time by ourselves after our baby was born. It’s my second child, the first for my husband so it was kind of a big deal for us,” she explained on reddit.

“A few minutes after we ordered, another couple sat on the table next to us … with a small baby in a stroller. At first it was fine but after a few minutes the baby started crying. They tried to comfort it, but every time it seemed they had managed to make it sleep, it woke up crying again.

“By then we just wanted to leave but we had already ordered so we decided to ask the waiter if we could change tables to the other side of the restaurant. The waiter asked if there was a problem and I said it was our first time out after having a baby and we didn’t feel like spending our evening next to someone else’s crying baby. He was super nice and quickly asked another waiter to help him set up the new table for us. Another couple that was in the same area also asked to be seated elsewhere.”

Unfortunately, the couple with the baby overheard the discussions, and weren’t happy.

“The mum got upset and called me an a**hole. She went on and on saying that I probably don’t have kids (mm.. I have two), and that babies are also people and we should just accept that babies can be loud and cry and there’s nothing she could do about it.

“I didn’t want to start a fight or anything but I got really annoyed by her attitude, so I told her that she could actually do something about the crying … she could take her baby home so it can properly sleep and then let everyone else there enjoy their meals.

“She kept saying stuff but I just ignored her, went to our new table and tried to have a nice dinner (although we could still hear the crying baby but at least it was not right next to us).

“This morning I told my sister what happened and she said she agrees that I might have been an a**hole. She said I shouldn’t have said to the waiter that we wanted to move because of the baby and I shouldn’t have said what I said to the mum. So now I am not sure?”

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  • There are two sides to every story, but I must admit I cannot stand crying children in a supermarket these days. I do have 4 of my own, but they looked at coming shopping with me as a treat and the same with going out to a restaurant. No way would I have had one of them howling and still be in the restaurant.


  • The mum with the crying baby sounds stressed and probably tired. Neither of them seem to see the other side to the story.


  • There’s no way I’d take my baby or child to a fancy restaurant and if I did and bubs was getting upset, I’d be taking the baby out of the room to try to settle it.
    I think this couple should have had more consideration for the people around them. I wouldn’t care if it was at a pub but if it’s at a nice restaurant and I’d organised a babysitter for a night off, then I wouldn’t want a crying baby near me. Not at a nice restaurant (which probably means it’s expensive too).


  • I probably wouldn’t take my kid out to a fancy restaurant but I don’t think you are the a*hole. Some restaurants have Adults only dining sections to avoid issues like this.


  • No you aren’t in the wrong with your thinking. Wonder how they would feel if they got a babysitter and had someone sit next to them with a crying baby? I think your sister should have understood too. Don’t let it get to you. Some people are just selfish and only think of themselves.


  • I probably wouldnt take my kid to a fancy restaurant if there was a chance there was non stop crying


  • It’s situations like this just shows peoples selfishness. Okay you wanted a kid free night that’s fine but put yourself in the other person’s shoes, how would you feel


  • You are NOT an arsehole and totally in the right. Bet you don’t go and steal balls from ball pits- you don’t ruin kids time, so they shouldn’t ruin yours.


  • Not the a-hole. I have two young children too and I would never take them to a ‘very nice, fancy restaurant’. It’s not the right place. The other parents should choose a more family friendly restaurant in future.


  • The mum would’ve felt so embarassed i couldn’t imagine if someone felt that way about me and my children. There was probably a better way of handling it

    • mm, I’ve received comments about my child in which case I apologize and take a walk to distract it


  • You’ve done nothing wrong at all, asking to be moved is a polite gesture rather than approaching the parents and asking them to move or keep their child quiet. It’s a big thing to go out for a date night with Your partner and you’re entitled to a little quiet time without a child crying.


  • I think you asked nicely enough by the sounds of it and you didn’t cause any more fuss even when the parents did…so no you’re not


  • Not the a**hole at all.


  • I feel for everyone, but I also totally understand. I’ve been the Mum of a baby so I understand how much a date means, or if you take your child out, how hard it is to make sure you’re not annoying everyone. So, we would go to certain restaurants with our young child where it was normal to have children there; and then somewhere totally different when we went out without our child. That’s a win win for everyone.


  • Not everyone is lucky to have someone to care for their kids and to go out for a nice dinner. I would just ask to move not worth the unnecessary confrontation.


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