There is no such thing as gentle parenting – it is laziness on this parents part.

It seems to be a rising trend where parents just let their kids do anything. Since a lot of people decided against smacking their kids and then realised the extra effort required with other methods of discipline, it’s like we are seeing a whole new form of parent who just lets their kids do anything all the while saying “oh, don’t do that, that’s naughty” without doing anything to back it up. The kids are walking all over them!

hahahaha well said

hahaha so well said!

I’ve seen this happen in the playground, some parents really need to step it up if their kids are being bullies

Yeah sorry but that’s not gentle parenting, that’s lazy parenting. There’s a difference.

Agree. If the child is being a bully they need to be disciplined by their parents and not brushed aside

Ahhhhh… I call it lazy parenting. My son was a victim of such behaviour often going back to when he was about 1 (20 years ago). Guess what? Those kids don’t grow up to be gentle, they grow up to be bullies, and sensitive children like mine have to suffer the consequences of their behaviour. It’s been a nightmare being the parent of a child who has such a lovely, kind and gentle soul watching tha tbeaten out of him time and time again as he asks why? Why is someone allowed to do that Mum without consequences? I have no answers. Sadly this is the world we live in now and it’s reflected right throughout society.

I find this very frustrating too. I get told I’m too strict but I’d rather that than my kids running feral & out of control.

I’ve been in a similar position where my child was being bitten. The parent didn’t even get up out of their chair!

That’s shocking! I hope that child has great boundaries and the parent was just having an off day.

Yeah that’s not a gentle parenting approach, that’s not using discipline at all. You can (and should) till discipline but it’s the way you do it and talk calmly rather than reacting.

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  • • Jessica replied
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  *Can and should still discipline*

This isn’t gentle parenting. This is just a lazy mother. I bet you she was on her phone, not paying attention at all, or was chatting to a mum friend. There are so many parents who don’t watch their kids in these settings and it is so frustrating. Other people shouldn’t be telling your kid off!

I agree. That’s not gentle parenting, it seems to be non existent parenting

Yeah, that’s bad or non existent parenting.

There’s gentle parenting and then there is no parenting like it seems in this case.

If their child is going to act so rough they shouldn’t be allowed back to that centre. Maybe if it’s done at a few places she might realise that it’s her and her child that are the problem. Sounds like she uses the centre to look after her child so she can take a break from him. Bet she wouldn’t like it if another child did this to her son. I’m sorry but people like that don’t deserve to use centres

Yeah that’s not gentle parenting, That’s a parent who “doesn’t want to deal” with the tantrum that will inevitably happen if they actually try and discipline a child who hasn’t been disciplined previously..

I’m all for a bit of discipline and not rewarding bad behaviour. If my child was hurting another child I’d be so apologetic and my child would be disciplined appropriately and taken home. I know kids can be kids but aggressive and violent behaviour is not on.

It always surprises me how many parents or grandparents pop them in these places and then don’t keep an eye on them. Very lazy parenting. The child will eventually meet up with another unsupervised little monster and get a dose of his own medicine. I’d do the same thing, if no parent comes to pull them up I will politely tell them off.