I think this is more a matter of unresponsive parenting.
“Unresponsive parenting,” often called “uninvolved parenting” or “neglectful parenting,” is a parenting style where parents show a lack of responsiveness to their child’s needs, emotions, and desires, essentially not actively engaging with their child beyond providing basic necessities like food and shelter; this can include emotional distance, minimal supervision, and little to no support or guidance

I agree is not gentle parrenting as with gentle parenting still healthy boundaries are ste.
However I don’t think this is dismissive parenting.
Dismissive parenting is a style where a parent consistently ignores or minimizes their child’s emotions, often treating their feelings as unimportant, invalid, or something to simply “get over,” effectively dismissing their child’s emotional needs and creating a disconnect in the parent-child relationship; this can manifest through ignoring, downplaying, or distracting the child when they express negative emotions.
I think this is more a matter of unresponsive parenting.

It’s been said many times, that is not gentle parenting, it is dismissive parenting. Gentle parenting still involves setting boundaries and having consequences. It doesn’t mean you excuse their behaviour and just say to the kid “that was naughty”. My eldest has had the same best friend since kindy, but because of “gentle parenting” on his sibling, we’ve had to limit playdates because his sibling bullies and scares both of my kids. I stepped in and intimidated the kid and told the Mum her *gentle parenting” wasn’t working and we needed a break because my kids don’t feel safe.

And by not using acceptable disiplin it turns out that no one likes your child and who wants that? I always said that I wanted children that other people enjoyed being around. I would have felt like I was letting my kids down if I had turned them into horrible little brats that no one liked

There is no such thing as gentle parenting – it is laziness on this parents part.

It seems to be a rising trend where parents just let their kids do anything. Since a lot of people decided against smacking their kids and then realised the extra effort required with other methods of discipline, it’s like we are seeing a whole new form of parent who just lets their kids do anything all the while saying “oh, don’t do that, that’s naughty” without doing anything to back it up. The kids are walking all over them!

hahahaha well said

hahaha so well said!

I’ve seen this happen in the playground, some parents really need to step it up if their kids are being bullies

Yeah sorry but that’s not gentle parenting, that’s lazy parenting. There’s a difference.

Agree. If the child is being a bully they need to be disciplined by their parents and not brushed aside

Ahhhhh… I call it lazy parenting. My son was a victim of such behaviour often going back to when he was about 1 (20 years ago). Guess what? Those kids don’t grow up to be gentle, they grow up to be bullies, and sensitive children like mine have to suffer the consequences of their behaviour. It’s been a nightmare being the parent of a child who has such a lovely, kind and gentle soul watching tha tbeaten out of him time and time again as he asks why? Why is someone allowed to do that Mum without consequences? I have no answers. Sadly this is the world we live in now and it’s reflected right throughout society.

I find this very frustrating too. I get told I’m too strict but I’d rather that than my kids running feral & out of control.

I’ve been in a similar position where my child was being bitten. The parent didn’t even get up out of their chair!

That’s shocking! I hope that child has great boundaries and the parent was just having an off day.

Yeah that’s not a gentle parenting approach, that’s not using discipline at all. You can (and should) till discipline but it’s the way you do it and talk calmly rather than reacting.

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  *Can and should still discipline*

This isn’t gentle parenting. This is just a lazy mother. I bet you she was on her phone, not paying attention at all, or was chatting to a mum friend. There are so many parents who don’t watch their kids in these settings and it is so frustrating. Other people shouldn’t be telling your kid off!

I agree. That’s not gentle parenting, it seems to be non existent parenting

Yeah, that’s bad or non existent parenting.

There’s gentle parenting and then there is no parenting like it seems in this case.