I have dreaded the time when our boys would start to ask this question.

It really amazes me that they still believe In Santa (at 11, our oldest boys age, I certainly didn’t)….although they are quite puzzled by what the other children say.

Just tonight Mr 11 was telling me that his friend at boarding school knows his Mum just buys his presents and that he thinks that Santa isn’t true. Then came the question….”Is he true Mum?”…now, I don’t like to fib, but this is a tricky one.

The answer that fell out of my mouth was ‘what do you believe?’ We then had a discussion about believing in things we can’t see….heaven help his religion teacher next year, he’ll probably bring up Santa as a fine example of believing!!

He concluded he knows Santa is real but the Tooth Fairy is not!!

One downside to boarding school – he told me he left his tooth in a cup for a fortnight beside his bed and nothing happened – darn!

To me the true magic of Christmas disappears once you know Santa is not real, because until then you are breathless with excitement at the thought of his appearance, you can’t wait to leave out the beer and carrots, and each year you will try to stay awake to catch a glimpse of him…..

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO YOU AND YOURS!!  I hope Santa finds you…..



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  • Difficult to answer but with time and a constructive talk, it’ll be helpful


  • Definitely a difficult question to answer. So hard to answer and not make yourself look like a liar


  • Isn’t it sad when they start asking this question? Even sadder when they stop believing. The magic just disappears when the kids stop believing in Santa


  • Thankfully my little one is too small for this yet


  • My son asked me this question this year, and I waited to see where he went with it. This year we’re safe.. next year is another story.


  • My son told my daughter that Santa wasn’t real but would tell us he still believed because he was worried that once you stop believing you don’t get so many presents lol


  • Have never encouraged belief in Santa because I think it undermines values like truth that I want to inspire. My children love Christmas and enjoy all the Santa stuff (like stockings and visits and photos at the shops) and know it is just pretend. Not one iota of the “magic” is taken away. Far better than the pretence and lies and disappointment when the truth finally dawns.


  • My eldest nephew doesn’t believe any more but he is 9 years old. I don’t know how long it took him to work it out. He saw a photo of a little one taken at a party and one of his Uncles was dressed up as Father Christmas. He told me “that is Uncle…..”. As long as he doesn’t tell his little brother (3 y.o.) for a few years all will be well.


  • Trying to keep this myth alive as long as I can.


  • Believing in Father Christmas is such a short special time in your childhood.


  • What a lovely article. When mine started to doubt that year my husband and I set up a camera and filmed Santa puting presents under our tree. Wow that conformation lived for many more years…
    p.s. Can I suggest that Boarding students post their fallen tooth back to Mum to put it under their home pillow and Mum and dad can collect the Tooth Fairy’s Gift and post that back or buy something nice in their care packages.

    • Love the boarding school tooth fairy idea!


  • “What do you believe?” is a good one as kids think about and come up with their own answers.


  • I hope to continue the mystery of Santa for many years yet, even as the kids get older and they have younger cousins I hope that they remember that Santa can be anything or anyone, mysterious.


  • Yes I am dreading being asked that question


  • Im pretty sure my son knows but he plays along


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