My 11-year old daughter has started high school this year and got a phone for Christmas. We’ve just found out she has TikTok and Snapchat accounts. I don’t want to be a prude and I know she wants to interact with her friends but is TikTok safe for kids?

One of our MoM members has reached out to the MoM community after she found out her daughter secretly had a TikTok account on her phone:

“I’m devastated to find this out. The worst thing is the secrecy, made worse when we found in her search history “how to hide apps on iPhone”. I do understand her need to interact with her friends even more so now with social distancing but I just don’t know how best to deal with this. Is TikTok safe for kids? I’m hoping you Mum’s may be able to recommend from personal experience any suitable apps where kids can share videos, pictures etc safely.”

So what exactly is this TikTok?

TikTok is a free social media app that lets users watch, create, and share videos, most often of people lip-synching to popular music hit songs. The app was originally known as musical.ly. Users are able to upload their own videos where they sing, dance, lip-synch or talk and the can also browse and interact with content uploaded by other users.

But Is TikTok Safe For Kids?

Our mums have come to the rescue and made some really good suggestions:

Take Away The Phone

Many mums suggested that the mum just take away access to the smart phone.

“Take phone away and swap for one that can only text and call. You can still buy them,” suggested one mum.

“I’d take the phone. If she can’t be honest and use it responsibly, she is not ready for it,” said another.

Embrace It! Don’t Fight It!

Another mum said parents shouldn’t fight against it but rather understand it better:

“The Apps aren’t bad, the issue is with how they are used. Instead of trying to control the situation maybe try and learn together. I would explain why you have concerns about her using these apps and how she has broken your trust. Discuss how there may need to be some limitations now regarding the phone usage until that trust has grown. I would be using a family link App or similar so she needs permission to download new apps. I would also start using the same apps as she is. Create some TikToks together, send each other snaps. The more you can talk and connect and understand her and her world for communicating the more she will feel that she can come to you if something online makes her uncomfortable.”

Another mum agreed:
“Let her have them.. but make the rule that when you ask to see her phone she hands it to you.”

“It’s tough being the only one out of all your friends that’s not allowed TikTok or instagram etc. They’re all on it. I would say instead of just outright banning it, have rules in place. Ask for all passwords for her accounts, follow her on TikTok or insta so you can see her posts & set limits. Like no phone at bed time etc.

“Kids are always going to find a way to do what you don’t want them to do – especially if all their friends are doing it. You’re better off just negotiating and agreeing on terms that you’re both happy with.”

Big TikTok Fans

This mum is a big fan of TikTok:

“My daughters both have social media and have since they were 8 or 9. They are open and honest with me, I follow them And monitor it. Win win. Tiktok is a fabulous app BTW. The things my girls do with that amaze me. My little one does dances all day on that thing and she is happy, creative, fit and healthy.
Keep an open mind instead of an old fashion view point of just saying no for no good reason. Social media is not dangerous if monitored and used as intended.”

Share An Account

Many mums suggest that you should log into your child’s account from your own phone:

“I have a daughter the same age. And she is allowed TikTok and instagram. Condition is – I am logged in to her account on my phone too so I can see every message etc. There has been a couple of slightly questionable things which I have seen, but both times my daughter came to me asking what to do. You can’t hide them from it forever, but you can teach them how to be sensible with it.”

Another mum agrees:
“My 10 year old has a TikToK account on her phone and I have her account on my ipad as well so everything she does and everyone she speaks to comes up in my ipad. She is perfectly fine with this and I find its easier to police cause I have constant access.”

Stricter Restrictions

One mum suggested putting more stricter restrictions on using the phone:

“Put restrictions on times of access, eg. She only has access between 8am and 4pm on school days. Then check phone history every day. Once you start to see some maturity and trust then increase the freedom.”

Angela suggested that you make sure you implement strict restrictions on the app:

“I learnt that I can set it up so that everything also goes to my phone. If she can’t show me how she knows a person on her friends list I remove them. I also discovered you can limit words, for example I removed all words for a person’s private areas, nobody can tell her she is sexy as that word is removed. Basically I removed any words I felt a predator or anyone else could try use to entice her. She still gets her friends’ comments. Just the ones inappropriate have been removed.”

Keep A Close Check

One mum said parents should allow their kids to have these apps but should just keep a close check on usage.

“I spend a couple minutes going through her Snapchat, Messages and TikTok every couple of days to ensure nothing inappropriate is being said/done etc. I have very open conversations with my daughter about how she must talk to me if someone, even a friend, were to send her something inappropriate and I 100% trust her.”

Family Link

A few mums suggested setting up ‘Family Link’ so you have to authorise the Apps she wants to install.

Forget About Other Apps

A mum has said it probably won’t work encouraging her to use alternative social apps:

“You could try those other apps but unless her friends are on them as well they will be no use as Snapchat and TikTok is how kids communicate these days. You just need to chat to her about your expectations with her behaviour online and friend her on them to keep an eye out for anything inappropriate.”

Set Up A Phone Usage Contract

One mum said she would set up a ‘phone contract’ with her child:

“Set boundaries only use the phone in the lounge room, limit times to be on it and do not let it be in the room especially at bed time. Make a contract with rules and punishment if rules are broken eg no phone for a week etc. Both parents and your daughter to sit down write the contract all sign it and stand by it. It’s so dangerous and nudes is something kids are being pressured to do. Never let her be alone with it especially in the bathroom or bedroom. They are vulnerable and rules need to be set and in place. Trust me I know I have been through it and it’s not nice.”

What the experts have to say

TikTok requires that users be at least 13 years old to use the app and anyone under 18 must have approval of a parent or guardian. However there are still plenty of younger tweenie users.

Commonsense Media suggests:
“If your younger kid or tween wants to use the app, the account should belong to an adult who can monitor what younger users are browsing and sharing. There’s also the section of the app mentioned above that’s meant for kids under 13 that restricts access to mature content and comments, but since entering a false birthdate is easy, it’s still best for older teens.”

In addition, you need make sure you make your child’s TikTok account private. You can also use the app’s Digital Wellbeing features to help limit time spent on the app and limit the appearance of inappropriate videos. Parents should also share an account with kids under the age of 13. This will let you keep an eye on what your kid is viewing and posting.

Is TikTok safe for kids? Tell us what you think in the comments below.

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  • Nope, I think this is dangerous. All my kids are too young anyway.


  • I know a lot of my daughters friends have this and send her videos of themselves from it but I won’t let her be on it.


  • I’m finding it hard to keep up with all the trends.


  • I don’t like Tik Tock however Snap Chat is another platform that I don’t trust as pics disappear once they see them. My grandson 13 years old had ‘nudes’ sent to him and then they quickly disappeared. Keep a watch on these sites. Not good for children even though kids like it!


  • Tik tok is the trend at the moment and coronavirus has made it more popular as people are looking for different sorts of online entertainment.


  • I don;t let mine use it as it concerns me that they are too young to make responsible choices


  • I really am resisting anything like this; fortunately my kids aren’t much interested yet.


  • I’m not a fan of tikitok at all as I have seen some disturbing and dangerous trends on there.


  • There will ALWAYS be risks with anything to do with using online or social media pages.
    Snapchat and Tiktok, the same as Facebook or Instagram, you can be followed so easily by people that you don’t know. I think snapchat is the worst of all the social media apps. Sending private photos to other people, and the app shares their location with everyone they are friends with. Hopefully they dont have any strangers or people they arent close with on there that may know where they live. Tiktok seems more harmless but I think its another one of the apps (like Instagram) where people use their bodies for views. Instagram has caused so many body issues for young girls, Tiktok will do the same.


  • I think my kids use it sometimes to do/copy a TikTok dance, they don’t upload video’s themselves.


  • I don’t trust it and don’t let me daughter use it


  • I think like any Apps, you need to stick to the restrictions for your child and also to set reasonable guidelines . And to always check in.


  • My kids don’t use it.


  • There are less safe apps than Tik Tok but I think my approach would be to educate, talk and try to trust. Restricting makes children want it more – its human nature (think of restricting “bad” foods and binging). I know what it was like being a child with so many restrictions


  • My kids are allowed to use the app as long as their account stays on private. They can see plenty of dances etc but only their approved friends can see theirs.


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