We all know that every child is unique and precious, but how well do you really believe that? How well do you maintain composure and live that philosophy when doctors, teachers and experts challenge you every day with “normal” benchmarks and averages?

Every person in the world has a unique energy just like they have unique fingerprints and I think we forget this fact when children are growing up and being compared and scrutinised. I have heard so many of my friends and family members tell me stories like “the obstetrician says my baby in the womb is oversize for the normal stage of term” (if that is not scary enough!) or the teacher says “your child is not learning at the normal pace and we suggest there might be something wrong”.

Statements like these really irritate me because they are narrow minded around what is right and wrong for any particular age or state. They are overly logical and ego based and not creative at all. I do understand that issues must be picked up in some instances but I think we have bred such high standards and structure around everything, that we forget that these beautiful souls are just developing at their own pace and their own time.

With all of the energy healing sessions I have done over the years (with children and adults) I can promise you that nobody is the same energetically  and the key is to let your child’s talents and gifts unfold at their own pace with you as their supporting role model.

What are your child’s natural gifts?
Being made to feel like your child is backward, slow learning or not up to scratch is like asking us to be robots and use the “one size fits all” approach. It’s a little robotic to be honest. The best thing to do is to recognise and decipher your child’s natural gifts they bring into the world. Why? Because those gifts are what their soul needs to fulfil their path and happiness in this life. We are born with innate intelligence designed especially for us to use. I work a lot with adults to help them get on path with career and passions – and I find that going back to childhood and remembering what they loved most is usually the key to moving forward in their career direction.

Early on you get “hints” as to what sort of career your child will love…
What are good questions to think about? Is your child sensitive and intuitive (great healing profession), strong with a leadership slant (CEO material), technical and more inward reflecting (maybe a developer/programmer), imaginative, airy and dreamy (actor, musician or poet) or perhaps a cheeky extrovert (comedian)? Focus on their strengths and encourage that to blossom. This is the key to building a confident and happy child. If they feel good in their natural authentic skin, they won’t stress as much and won’t block their talents. You create a confident child whose natural intelligence is fostered. If you have anxious children or they are difficult to manage – get them creatively focussed on what they love so they fall back into sync with the beauty of their soul.

  • I don’t think we can ever define children as in the ‘normal range’ however some children appear to excel at different fields. The key for parents and teachers is to nurture and encourage them in what ever they are interested in.


  • My son always sat at theaverage level, which was good because he hated bookish subjects, he much preferred the hands on subjects. My daughter was always a grade above and loved it


  • Our student is about a year above average at her age for reading. If she “disappears” there is a very good chance she is sitting reading a book.
    The latest at the end of last year was she hates history.
    I don’t quite know which history she means. That information she wasn’t about to tell us. She has a fascination for Egyptian History.


  • My daughter was always way head academically, my son cruised through on averages. My daughter has chosen a career that involves Uni my son works with his hands


  • A very interesting read thank you


  • Thanks for sharing this interesting article.


  • this looks like a great article!
    thanks for sharing with the mums


  • My son has always been introverted and very unsure of himself. This year he started playing soccer and discovered he had a natural talent. We have encouraged it ever since! The changes in his personality and confidence have been amazing!


  • I think my child will be working in something that needs lots of concentration.


  • This is really a wonderful article. Thank you for sharing.


  • That’s why play is important for kids.


  • I dont think you can class a child as normal, I think as a society we are too quick to label things and people


  • I like to think my children are in the normal range, but who really defines normal?


  • hard to say as she is only two but she does have a shy streak which we will be watching


  • So true, our youngest has Asperger’s, which is on the ASD, and traditional learning is very difficult for him. Yet he has an extensive vocabulary, is inquisitive, funny and can be a real charmer (best not to dwell on the flip side :-/ ). Another one of our kids is a talented athlete and our other child is an animal lover and very compassionate. Three totally different kids in one family, all fun loving individuals. Who needs “normal” (or “mainstream” as we call it) when they’re perfect as they are?


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