Mum asks on public forum if she is maybe being unreasonable to start saving up for a nose job for her baby daughter.

Sharing on Mumsnet she wrote that that her husband has a “very large nose” and although she personally likes this part of his appearance – in fact she thinks it makes him look handsome – he isn’t fond of this feature and has been bullied in the past about it.

Despite being a young baby, the mother is already pretty sure her daughter will be taking after her father “in the nose department”.

She said in the post, “ AIBU [am I being] nreasonable to put some money aside each week incase she wants a nose job when she is older? If her nose isn’t like her dad’s or it doesn’t bother her she could use it for other things.

“I’m just concerned she will be self conscious as other people make remarks to DH [dear husband] and he had been teased about it in the past.”


Although she did state “obviously she would still be gorgeous to me” it was too late for most commenters, who had already decided this was a terrible idea.

Lots of people were concerned that the mother is going to damage her daughter’s self-esteem over the issue, one said: “It’s your job to make her feel beautiful and have a great sense of self worth regardless of her nose.”

“How mortified will she feel when she finds out you’ve been saving for cosmetic surgery since she was a baby,” said another.

Do you think this mum is making a wise decision, OR is she setting her child up to have self image issues?

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  • Better of saving for Braces in this day and age, they cost more than a nose job and more than likely will require them long before a nose job is even an option


  • I know she is just thinking ahead so just start an account for her that she can access when she turns 18 or 21. If her daughter does come to her worried about her appearance there will be money available. You’ll probably find that it won’t be a problem for her then when she comes of age she will have money to buy a car or whatever else she fancies.


  • Think the money could be put to better use and she shouldn’t make a big deal of appearance to her child.


  • How ridiculous! We are all ‘beautiful’ in our own way it’s called biodiversity. Be happy with the way God made you.


  • My son has ears that stick out like car doors. Just like mine. And on top of that he got his dads massive honking nose. I’m going to teach him that only really insecure people get plastic surgery and then discover they are still insecure and it hasn’t ‘fixed’ anything.


  • It’s good she is putting money aside for her daughter but for a nose job?? Seriously???? She is the one who will make her daughter self conscious!


  • I think it is a good idea she is planning into the future money wise, and what a great savings account it will be for her daughter if she choses not to have plastic surgery. I’m hoping that the mum isn’t going to be making a big deal out of it to the daughter and just lets her live her life and if one day she comes to her mum and brings up the subject then she can tell her she has money available to do that


  • I don’t think she should be concerned with this now, moreso when the child is of an appropriate age and can make that decision for him/herself.


  • I’m more concerned that you’re having these thoughts for your daughter before it’s an issue. Deal with it if it presents itself as a problem, rather than live a life that assumes this will happen. I’ve never heard of anything like this before so am a little shocked. My son did have braces because he had protruding teeth with a large gab and he could express to me why he wanted braces. It was not about vanity at all, but about self esteem and being picked on. I would not have got them based on aesthetics or looks alone. However, we do live in a society now that is mostly based on Instagram looks.


  • What a great way to endow negative self-conciousness and self-esteem on your own child! This, to me, seems that it will be more of an issue for the Mother …. bringing focus on this at this early stage could have already scarred the child for life by drawing attention to this to family and friends ….


  • I understand her worry, but Im not sure this is the best solution.


  • Saving won’t be a problem. I hope she doesn’t make the bub conscious of it growing up.


  • It will be the child’s decision to make when he/she is of age.


  • It should be the decision from the person having the surgery.


  • she could save the money for education, holidays etc


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