Mum asks an important question on Mumsnet, “What happened to old fashioned home parties?”
MrsD79 wrote on the forum, “With two birthdays ahead of us and two pestering kids pleading for parties, the impending cost made me think why oh why oh why is it such a huge palava?”
She adds, “Every single invite my kids have had is for a party in a hired venue with an entertainer!
We never had that. It was at home in the front room, mum made a trifle and sandwiches and the cake. We didn’t have entertainment!
My query is why is it now the norm to hire a venue etc. It costs a bloomin fortune!
Is it wrong to take a trip back to nostalgia? After all if it was good enough back then, what’s the problem now?
(Is it because) We don’t want people in our homes, we don’t want to be judged, we are scared, germs even, or we just want to show off?”
One member replied, “It’s not the 1980’s anymore. But you should feel no pressure, just do whatever you want to do and what fits in well with your family. Every party is different and there are plenty enough that are held at home too.”
Another said, “I had a party at home once. Never, ever again. The planning was way more time consuming than I thought it would be, I spent the whole party running around sorting out arguments, and doing food. Plus, the mess at the end was unbelievable. Much easier to go to a soft play place for a couple of hours and relax while they sort everything out. Money well spent IMO.”
One mum said, “It’s because I work so don’t have the inclination to spend the spare time I’ve got catering and organising games like my mum did, plus a group of small boys are hideously lively and need space to rush around, which we don’t have (and have winter birthdays). I’d rather pay someone else to clear up and not have the house trashed.”
Lules said, “I live in a flat so there would be no space for a children’s party.”
SecretNutellaFix replied, “Modern houses are a heck of a lot smaller than the house in which I grew up and there is next to no outside play space for kids to run around if it’s not pouring with rain?”
I personally have done a mix of both. But I always keep it to a minimum of 6-8 kids. None of this whole class business! Now my boys are getting older they prefer to take a couple of mates to laser tag or something similar. Parties are pretty much done for us. Wahhhh… I do love a good party theme! You can check out some of my boys parties here.
As a child I can only really remember one of my birthday parties, it was with a group of friends at home. My 18th birthday was also in our rumpus room at home.
Do you prefer to outsource your kids birthday’s or do you still have them at home?
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