This lady is a dictator! Don’t luke it, don’t send your kid but stio trying to ban everything to suit your bias agenda. Others love it, let them have fun!!

Her opinion is all hers ,others love it!

I think it’s morphed into something more like a milestone for the kids these days!

For me these balls are completely new. And a lot of students don’t like them anyway. I don’t know if my daughter will want to go or not.

There are debutante balls and formals which are totally different but I think formals are a nice tradition.

gee there is a bit of feeling in there

My three older sons went to school formals, yes it costs. They hire their suits and no it was not presention one. One to enjoy finishing Yr 12, it has become a dressy type ones depending on the theme. Mine was smart causal but that was 1979. A Deb ball is different from a Formal or Senior dance. A Deb most times is a white gown . which in my niece’s case became part of her wedding dress years later. Her school still had a formal dance later n the year. My oldest daughter’s one this year they are doing a “Back to 50’s ” theme, so can raid op shops for this one if needed. Though she wants a full petticoat skirt. think sewing involved in that one.

Could you just not send your child? I’m glad i didnt have one because i was boyish but some kids look forward to it

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 05 Apr 2019 , 5:14 am

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  Sure, you could do that. But even when you yourself don’t feel for it your child might like to attend. My girl is in year 9 now and talks already about the formal dress she would like to have ! I’m happy to buy a second hand dress at Vinnies for her, when she wants some more exquise she has some years to safe up money for that.

IF YOU DON’T LIKE IT DON’T DO IT BUT DON’T RUIN IT FOR EVERYONE ELSE! Yes i yelled it, stop whinging and just don’t participate

If you feel that strongly about it, then dont send your child, but I don’t agree with your views

I went to a few formals during highschool and it was more just to socialise with your peers outside of school in a grown up environment

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 05 Apr 2019 , 5:13 am

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  The opportunity to socialise with peers and to unwind is wonderful.

That’s a very angry mum.
I wonder if there is more to her story.
I went to multiple formals and loved them all.
I’m actually glad to see groups of girls go together and groups of boys go together instead of feeling the need to pair up with the opposite gender.

There is a lot of criticism amongst some of them about the outfits worn too. A relative of mine chose to go in a racing car. He Dad borrowed the car. Because of its noise he got a special permit and warned the Police in advance. He took the car home and went back and picked her up at the arranged time.

If you don’t want your child to participate, they don’t have to.
It’s he parents/child choose no one else choice.

You can choose whether your child attends or not but don’t spoil the fun for all the others.

I love them and it’s fun for the kids

I have been to them and they are a wonderful modern celebration for everybody.
It was a coming of age milestone and celebration of achievement and was not gender based.

Now they tend to be a celebration of finishing year 12.

I refused to go to mine. Even so, I wouldn’t ban them, I’d just tone them down a lot.

I remember the formal was the thing to look forward to. The big event to celebrate doing well at school. The formal got alot of people through the year. Knowing there was something to look forward to and not just adult life and bills. A celebration EARNED from a year of hard work. And you have a YEAR to save up so your child can have these nice things if they want them. Its still a choice if they go. Not mandatory so if they are not a dress or suit or party kind of kid they dont have to be forced to.