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This mum-to-be couldn’t hide her disappointment after her gender reveal didn’t turn out the way she’d hoped.

An expectant mum has been left devastated after discovering she is having a boy instead of a girl. Taking to Reddit, her husband says she “made it clear from before she was pregnant that she really wanted a daughter” and has now lost interest in the pregnancy, refusing to talk about it at all The Courier Mail reports.

Just A Feeling

Leading up to the 20 week scan, the mum-to-be had a feeling she was having a girl but burst into tears when it was revealed that she was in fact having a boy. Despite it being a month since she found out the gender, her husband says she is still not over the shock and has stopped all preparation for the baby’s arrival. “It’s such an overreaction,” he said. “I told her that she needs to come to terms with this because the gender isn’t going to change. I told her she needs to get a grip. I felt awful but I feel like nearly a month of this is ridiculous.”

A Forum Divided

Responses to the post were mixed, with many rallying around the husband saying having a preference for your baby’s gender is setting yourself up for a fall. “It deeply disturbs me when people obsess over the sex and put a lot of weight into it,” wrote one forum user. “When parents obsess over the sex and act out like this when they don’t get what they want, that’s a terrible sign regarding their expectations as a parent.” Others said the mum could be experiencing prenatal depression. “Gender disappointment is real,” said one concerned commenter. “Many pregnant women get it.”

Have you experienced ‘gender disappointment’? Share your story in the comments!

  • Depressed before the baby is even born, poor thing is not going to be a happy baby boy

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  • I think the gender reveals are getting over the top. Back when I had kids it was a suprise at the end

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  • I understand the deep desire to have your very own mini me. I always wanted a baby girl after having my 1st son John a week before my 19th birthday. My 2nd little angel was again a boy. Then my ex and I decided to try for a girl, things were going well att and I eventually fell pregnant again, I found out I was having Twins so I was super excited and thinking yet, now I’ve got two chances of having a girl …….. two gorgeous boys were in my tummy. I did feel a ping of disappointment when I had my gender reveal scan but that lasted a few moments before I relised I was just meant to be a mum of boys and I absolutely Love my boys. When I had my twin boys whom are now 6, I had post pardum cardiomyopathy so I was supposed to have my tubes tied and I was told my heart could fail . After a nasty split with my ex , I didn’t think I would ever have anymore kids but after 2 years after my ex and I separated for good, I met a lovely man and fell pregnant with my 5th and final Miracle baby. I could have died and went from 75kgs to 55kgs after I gave birth to my now near two year old son J*** . I had my tubes tied during the scheduled c section I had when I gave birth. In the end I just feel so damn Lucky to have the most wonderful kids whom make my life worth living. I now have a gorgeous step daughter whom is 11 so I am very blessed. I think once this mum gives birth she will fall in love with her new son once she sees him.
    Her husband should just not push the issue and just support his wife the best he can without upsetting her. It’s hard enough being pregnant let alone being pregnant with a baby you don’t feel connected too yet and your husband’s possibly making her feel alone in her pain. Its not up to him to decide well it’s been a month now stop feeling the way she does and just be happy!. He hasn’t walked in her shoes so he should not judge his partner.

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  • I get that you can have a preference, mine was a girl and I have a girl now. Would I have been a bit disappointed if she was a boy…yes…would i have acted like this mother, no way. I would still have been as excited with a boy and would have loved putting him in little suits and having a little man around the house….it would have been more scary to have a boy because I have no idea about boys (raising them ect)

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  • I can understand in a way because I went through something similar but the main thing is that the baby is healthy at the end of the day.

    I really wanted a boy my 2nd pregnancy after having a girl and I was convinced it was a boy – after the ultrasound showed it was a girl and we left the hospital I cried to hubby because I was convinced it was a boy and “I knew deep down it was- well in my head it was!!” so to find out it was a girl was a shock as stupid as it sounds.

    There was also some personal things in my head related to me having another girl which I took as a sign of something negative would happen to myself by overthinking it but once I got my head wrapped around it I was so excited and loved the idea of another girl and she was a healthy baby at the end that is all that mattered.

    You learn overtime what a blessing it is to have a HEALTHY baby and that you CAN conceive that all the rest doesn’t matter in the end…

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  • I think the most important thing is that the baby is healthy Gender does not matter

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  • As long as your child is born healthy their gender shouldn’t matter. Maybe she needs to talk to a professional about why she is having these emotions.

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  • If you are going to act like this you shouldn’t have children. You don’t get to choose. Maybe she could foster instead.

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  • I can’t relate. I tried for 4 years and did not care if I had a boy or a girl, I just wanted to go full-term with a healthy baby. I think we’re sent the babies we’re meant to have and it’s so sad to be reliant on such things. I just hope that baby is loved.

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  • All my children were unknown to me until they were here – better than setting yourself up for a fall because you had decided in advance what you wanted.

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  • It’s ok to feel a little diaappointed if you had your heart set on a particular gender but you have to move on and be happy with what you get.

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  • Honestly, some people / couples have great difficulty in being able to have children let alone be disappointed in what gender they will birth! I think a healthy outcome is what she should be focused on rather than the gender

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  • I can’t possibly imagine being disappointed with the gender of a baby. You’re creating life and as long as it’s healthy, that should be all that maters.

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  • I never knew the sex of my babies til they were born. I definitely wasn’t upset with any if them and no way would I be disappointed if I wanted a girl and had a boy or vice versa. A baby is a błessing regardless of the sex

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  • I didn’t find out so no matter what I wouldn’t be disappointed because the overwhelming love that comes when you have that baby handed to you is incredible. I didn’t care what it was aslong as it came healthy

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