Mum heartbroken to hear her little boy constantly saying “he is such a bad boy.”

One mum has turned to us for advice on how to reassure her son he is not a BAD boy!

Posting on MoM answers mom62894 shared, “My son is 7 and recently has starting saying “I hate” and “mumma I’m such a bad boy”.

We don’t know where it’s come from and I’m so shocked I’m not sure what to say, we always reassure him that he is wonderful and caring so it isn’t coming from home, school maybe?”

MoM’s offer advice

One of our helpful MoM’s shared, “My heart goes out to you and your gorgeous son. My gut feeling is that it is coming from school. You might want to make an appointment with his teacher if it continues in the new school year. If u are a religious family, could it come from the concept of “sin” that he hears about at church or at a Christian school?”

One mum suggested simply asking why he thinks he is so bad.

Another said, “I too would try to get to the bottom of where it came from so you can help understanding the root cause.”

Another mum wrote, “At 7 in my opinion someone has been telling him his a bad boy maybe ask his teacher how he has been at school lately? Her reply should tell you if it is her saying it or not.”

What advice would you offer this mum?

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  • It could be something he has seen on tv or more than likely school. He may have been misbehaving in class and been told he is a naughty boy?

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  • He has probably heard or seen something which triggers this off. If you cannot help him then perhaps speak to your family doctor or some councilling may help. Some schools have a professional conuncillor on site or visiting weekly so it may be worth enquiring about this service to help your son get through this time and sort out his feelings and emotions and reassurance

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  • I would be asking questions – try to get him to tell you why – maybe someone at school is telling him that (another kid?).

    If he won’t open up to you I would see his teacher, most schools have counsellors who he might talk to instead of you

    wishing you all the best

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  • Yes definitely try to find out why he thinks so and or from who is he hearing that. Some television programs use also bad language, have a look at what he’s watching on tv as well. Depending on his behaviour overall and how severe it is ( is he down ? how is his self image beside these expressions ? does he have friends ? ) you could consult a psychologist.

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  • What a beautiful boy, hopefully he is not being put down at school constantly. I would try and get to the root of what is making him say it

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  • I know a child who started saying things that we were disturbed about. We asked where she had heard it, then who she had heard say it. If it is from a child and you know the parents very well, I’m not sure whether it would be worthwhile approaching them direct. It might be better than getting school admin involved

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  • Speak to your child in more depth, speak to the school and find out what is going on.

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