Mum Devastated After She Was Fired From Being a Bridesmaid for Being Fat

This mum is totally devastated that her best friend fired her from being a bridesmaid because she’s fat! Is she being unreasonable here?

“My best friend of 20 years asked me to be her maid of honour. I was thrilled of course. Just before she got engaged I fell pregnant and now have a gorgeous 2 month old daughter. The issue is that I put on about 25kg during my pregnancy and am struggling to lose it.

“My friend ordered the bridesmaid dresses months ago and I look like an overstuffed sausage in mine. The dressmaker said she could try and add a panel but my friend is adamant that it won’t look good and she is obsessed with all her bridal party looking the same.

“She told me yesterday that she thinks it’s better if I don’t be a bridesmaid anymore. I am absolutely gutted and feel guilty that I am too big to fit in the dress. I am also hurt and think I would never have ever done this to her (who cares what she wears as long as she is by my side!). I am now thinking of not going to the wedding at all. What should I do?”

Mums have shared their wise words of wisdom.

Our kind mums have said she is not a real friend if she can do something so shallow and advised the mum to move on and forget about her and get some new friends.

“What a shallow woman. Stuff her and her wedding. It’s about having people there that you want, the photos are good but people and looks change.”

“My heart breaks for you . Stay home cut her loose and love you great gift of a baby.”

“Best friends are real friends and love you no matter what. They are there for you through thick and thin and in good times and bad. Best friends will be there for you always. Maybe it’s time to re evaluate your friendship. Take care.”

“I am so sorry. I would not go either. I could not image doing that to my best friend.”

“If she was truly your friend she wouldn’t care. As much as it would hurt, I would no longer bother with her.”

“Sounds like she was never a really nice friend to start off with.”

While others urged the mum to go and enjoy herself still!

“Go to the wedding. She is your best friend. If you grew a sizes or sizes bigger because of your gorgeous daughter, who cares? As long as you are happy in your own skin. Buy your own beautiful size appropriate dress and shine at your BF’s wedding.”

“Go and let the world know why you aren’t a bridesmaid and please don’t take it to heart people are cruel.”

“I would confront your friend and let her know how upset you are and thought you were better friends then that. I know these are photos she will always look back on so wouldn’t she want her BF of 20years to be by her side.”

What would you do?

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27 Comments

- - meedee said
  - 29 Apr 2023
    10:36 am
So crashingly rude. You call her your best friend but honestly you can do better then her. A true best friend would never act like this towards you. We come in all different shapes, sizes and shades. Only stay home from the wedding if thats what you want and dont do it as a return attack on her. Moving forward you need to understand that she is not a good person and not your best friend.

- - MisChip said
  - 21 Jul 2019
    12:23 am
If she is the maid of honour she should get a different dress anyway. Gees some people get stupid for their wedding.

- - becstalou said
  - 02 Jul 2019
    8:48 pm
This is heartbreaking friends appearance should be the least important thing.

- - rovermum said
  - 27 Jun 2019
    11:32 am
Wow, I cannot believe this. I would absolutely feel personally affronted and attacked and would not want to go. Only she can make that decision on whether or not she would feel comfortable there but I imagine this friendship is well and truly over.

- - mom83217 said
  - 24 Jun 2019
    1:35 pm
Well if this so called “Best Friend” pulled this “Bride-Zilla” act on her, she should have pullled the “Mad Matron of Honor” act on her the Bride and publicly shamed her on Social Media. I would and also add that their friendship is over.

- - mom101628 said
  - 22 Jun 2019
    10:59 pm
Think I would think again about calling her a best friend. They don’t do that – they would be happy for you and accept you for how you are and accommodate you by having a different style dress for you. So sad that you had to find out this way.
- mom93821 replied
  
  23 Jun 2019 , 6:31 am
  I agree – a best friend is there for you always.
  - Ellen replied
    
    23 Jun 2019 , 7:50 am
    
    Exactly, a best friend loves no matter what !
- - mom113596 said
  - 22 Jun 2019
    10:18 am
My daughter got married a year ago and one of her best friends was a bridesmaid and she was a big girl and the photos of the bridal party was beautiful. She is not a best friend so home

- - mom19782016 said
  - 22 Jun 2019
    9:05 am
Pretty awful. I imagine she’s caught up on the wedding being perfect.

- - Becbec80 said
  - 22 Jun 2019
    6:54 am
Nope. Not a real friend.

- - nealsq said
  - 21 Jun 2019
    9:41 pm
yeah she is not your friend, she is a “fair weather friend” someone that is only around when the conditions suit them

- - tessie said
  - 21 Jun 2019
    9:30 pm
A true friend will love you no matter your size. I know because I had a friend for 38 years before she passed away. She saw me go from a size 16 to a 24 and she didn’t care. As she said she only loved me for who I was inside. Tell your so called friend how much she has hurt you. Just don’t turn up to her wedding and spend the time with the ones who love you for who you are.

- - mom197376 said
  - 21 Jun 2019
    8:40 pm
Wow. Your best friend? I couldn’t do this to anyone at all, let alone my best friend. I’d definitely cut that friend off forever. No one who treats you that way actually values “you”!
I hope you realise you are worth so much better than this.

- - dholtham said
  - 21 Jun 2019
    8:21 pm
Go to the wedding. Drink her wine, eat her food. Make new friends and move on – she doesn’t deserve you!

- - mom93821 said
  - 21 Jun 2019
    4:49 pm
In the same situation I would not go to the wedding.
Size does not matter and a friend should cherish a friendship no matter what your size.
- Ellen replied
  
  23 Jun 2019 , 8:10 am
  Yes I wouldn’t either, I would find my true friends to have a chat and a cry about this
- - Mum2archer said
  - 21 Jun 2019
    4:28 pm
in my opinion, her ‘friend’ wasn’t a real friend anyways! The bride seems like a terrible person, and I think she is better off without a friend like that

- - Ellen said
  - 21 Jun 2019
    7:58 am
This bride was not a true friend.

- - DaffyD said
  - 21 Jun 2019
    7:37 am
She was never a friend how rude of her

- - mom265671 said
  - 20 Jun 2019
    10:45 pm
Not a true friend to begin with I say

- - serotonin said
  - 20 Jun 2019
    8:42 pm
Sounds like the bride may be overly stressed about her wedding being “perfect”. If it’s new behaviour being so shallow/picky. There’s always more to the story.

- - Blossom said
  - 20 Jun 2019
    8:20 pm
What would the bride have done if the other bridesmaids that got pregnant too? Choose more different bridesmaids? Unless the wedding is about to happen, why did she order the dresses so early?