The frustrated mum couldn’t believe that her son was excluded from the birthday party over his allergies to nuts…

A mum has taken to social media to vent her frustration after her young son was excluded from a birthday party because of his allergies. The mum said that when the host of the party found out about her son’s peanut allergy, they said he couldn’t attend, and she is now struggling with breaking the news to him.

Taking A Risk

With so few parties this year due to COVID-19, this little boy was so excited about celebrating with his friends.

The mum said that she was taken aback by the unexpected decision.

“My child got invited to a birthday party. When the mother found out my child had a peanut allergy, she uninvited him. How would you explain to your child why he can’t go?”



Commenters on the mum’s post were divided, with some admitting they would have made the same decision.

“In fairness to the mother she probably became nervous about keeping your child safe in her watch,” one comment said. “And a good thing too as you would need to know your child is safe.”

Others, however, said that the decision was unnecessary and cruel.

“Tell your son that his friend’s mother uninvited him because he has a peanut allergy which she is irrationally afraid of because she is ignorant,” one outraged commenter wrote. “Assure him that his friend still likes him and had nothing to do with the decision to uninvite him.”

We’re not sure about this one. While we can understand where the host of the party is coming from, and recognise that the consequences of an allergic reaction can be severe, it isn’t that difficult to accommodate a nut allergy when hosting a child’s party.

Do you think the host of the party went too far or would you do the same? Let us know in the comments!

  • I wouldn’t uninvite the kid I would explain my concerns to the mum and give her the choice to attend or pack some similar food for their child so they can still come and play


  • This Mum handled this matter with ignorance. Did you think about offering to come and stay with your child to watch him and take responsibility so the host Mum could relax and do her job and you could help your child make his food choices. Win win!


  • aw, poor thing


  • That’s really sad, if she was worried I would have just asked the mum to accompany the child incase of a reaction. It’s not that hard


  • One should always check and be sure before inviting anyone to the child’s party. Although these days, I thought it was a matter of fact that most parties would be nut-free etc. so that there weren’t any adverse reactions to anyone else’s child. If the birthday child likes nuts, let him have them after all the other guests have gone home.


  • As a mother of allergy children, this is heartbreaking. The child is affected by this for life! The parents have the fear of an anaphylactic reaction for life.
    Thank goodness I am surrounded by caring family and friends that have wanted to be educated about it.
    It could have been spoken about between the adults and some arrangement made, of the mother staying or bringing a plate of ‘safe’ food for the child, which I have done for my kids and also for children with different allergies that have come
    To my house.


  • She certainly went about it the wrong way. She should have checked if any of the children had allergies before sending out invitations. Or she could have explained to the Mum that because her son had allergies would she mind staying for the duration of the party. That way both Mum’s would know that everything was being done to protect the boy


  • I think that is so wrong. She could simply have spoken to the boy’s Mum and discussed it first, to see what things could be put in place. Perhaps just put herself and her child in the position of the Mum and her little boy with allergies and see how she would feel. A little compassion and empathy please.

    • Very wrong indeed ! The mum possibly could have brought snacks for her child to the party !


  • It is not ok to uninvited kids because of allergies.I think host should discuss with the mum first.


  • It’s a shame the parents couldn’t have come to an arrangement where the child, with the allergy, had their Mum stay at the party too.


  • Poor kid, what is wrong with people. That’s one way to humiliate her. She would of felt awful. Never ever would I do this to a child.


  • This is just plain rude.
    Simple. Advise the parent of the child with the allergy that you would love for her son to attend but could she stick around as the allergy is of concern to her. Simple, simple, simple.

    The mum with the son who has allergies would understand!

    No one should miss out because of their allergies.


  • Some parents don’t think,not only does your beautiful child have an allergy to nuts he also has a heart and ears that would of heard the kids talking about the party. Tell him he is a beautiful little boy and the best parties are to come xxx


  • I feel for this child, image how many times this may have happened. If the birthday child wants nuts/peanut butter, that’s fine. Just ask the parent to stay, stating there will be nuts and your not confident in taking care of their child in that situation. It then becomes up to the parent to decide if the child (and they) attend. It won’t take much to provide a nut free cupcake for the other child.


  • I can see both sides.
    If the child whose party it was favoured peanut butter and wanted a peanut butter flavoured cake then that’s what they should get as it’s their birthday.
    Sad for the little boy who got uninvited but also the child whose birthday it is should be able to enjoy a party with whatever they like on the menu.
    I think it’s better to be safe than sorry as you don’t want your child in a situation where they are exposed to things that can trigger death.


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