An open communication wherein each others boundaries are respected is always important

I didnt really have an issue with it with my girls. They were told that they didnt have to give hugs and kisses to anyone they didnt want to. My girls were and still are naturally affectionate.

Open communication is the best. Have a round table discussion where you point out the pros and cons. Coming up with a solution would resolve this issue.

Thankfully I haven’t had this problem with friends or family with my two girls. I think people need to restrain from kissing on the lips. Too easy to pass on illness.

I would be saying – unless you stop this, my children are not coming to visit again. That should sort it out quite quickly

Very upsetting when as a parent your wishes are not considered. Makes it hard to make your child feel safe and set boundaries.

I wouldnt be happy either and make a big song and dance about it

I would create a huge fuss if I wasn’t respected about this.

Tell them you have no problem kissing your child on the top of their head or on their cheeks but on the lips is a definite no go zone. This is your child and whether you live with them or not, they don’t have more rights than the you do as the mother. If they keep kissing your child on the lips then you need to put your foot down. I’m a lot more concerned about the brother-in-law kissing your child on the lips. Hope they listen to your concerns and do as you ask otherwise it might be best to look for somewhere else to live and give them much less contact with their granddaughter. How does your husband back you up on this issue? Hope all goes well and they finally stop kissing her on the lips

Re-state your wishes and if they don’t respond to that, it’s their problem not yours.

Kissing on the lips for mum and dad but not anyone else. They should respect her wishes.

It should be the parent’s choice whatever it comes down to and the grandparents should respect this.

I don’t see a problem with kissing. On the cheek. Kissing on lips is plain weird and not cool. Lips is for man and woman- I see it as a sexual thing and should never be between adults and children no matter how good the intentions.

I’d get really angry if they have been spoken to about it before then they need to back off. If they don’t stop I’d call them out in a way they feel Extremely Uncomfortable So they won’t do it again.

Yeah this would make me mad, I had the same issue with my sister, I can do it it’s my child it’s not your child it’s not okay and very weird really

I hated my parents kissing me goodnight on the lips. Thankfully they stopped when I said I didn’t like it anymore. My brother and his wife did it with their daughter and she kissed the aunts/uncles/grandparents on the mouth too. My husband and I didn’t. We had to tell my dad (who was used to it from my niece) not to do it with our baby and he respected that too

Ughh how hard is it to respect the mother’s wishes?… far out. If this was my kid, after repetitively telling them I would have flown off the handle by now.

I’m so lucky my daughter knows when and by who she wants to be kissed. She’s only 1.5 but if she wants a kiss she will go pucker up for one and if someone is giving her a kiss goodbye and she doesn’t want one she will shake her head and blow a kiss or if she wants one she will give you her cheek or forehead. It’s only usually myself, dad, her brother and nanny, sometimes pops that get kisses from her.

What is wrong with the father? Stand up for your wife

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  • • Lovesthecuddles replied
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  I agree it is his parents he should be standing up and saying something

I wouldn’t be happy either if my in laws or my parents would have kissed my kids on the lips, glad they didn’t.
I would sure make this clear and expect them to abide and when they wouldn’t I would set an ultimatum

As they are in-laws possibly a partner/spouse could talk to them as well. Difficult situation due to the living and family situation, but your child, so your rules.