A mum-of-four has made a brutally honest admission, revealing the messy state of her house after four days without cleaning.

Bri James, who has a TikTok account called themessymama4, admits she knew uploading the eye-opening video would attracte negativity. But she wanted to show the reality of being a mum and becoming overwhelmed by the mess.

“I know I’m going to get roasted, I know it. But, this is what happens when two really lazy adults have four kids and don’t clean up after themselves,” Bri says in the voiceover.

“I have not done dishes or picked things up for four days and this is what my house looks like. It is not dirty, it is simply messy.”

@themessymama4I will block those who are mean. this is to keep me accountable not for views.

♬ original sound – Bri James

Bri says she uploaded the video, which has been viewed more than 12 million times, to keep herself accountable and not for views.

“Obviously I’m not going to post a really crappy video of my house being a mess and not post a video of me cleaning it.”

The mum then uploaded a series of videos, as she tackled the mess in her home. The time-lapse footage shows her clearing floors, stacking the dishwasher and trying to get her kitchen back in order.

While her videos have been flooded with supportive comments and offers of help, others have been scathing.

my butt does not look flattering in these Walmart lounge pants ????????‍♀️????

♬ original sound – Bri James

“Video tour of the life of … P R O C R A S T I N A T I O N,” wrote one person.

“It’s so much less daunting when you work on it every day instead of not lifting a finger for four days and then trying to clean the chaos,” said another.

But Bri takes it all with a grain of salt, and says reading the comments are ‘fun’.

“I really do only post it for accountability. I don’t post it for the views. I post it because I know people will see it … and they’ll comments and I’ll think ‘that’s a good idea’. Or just people seeing it in general will force my mind. I feel like company’s coming over.”

Make sure you check out our other article on TikTok Messy Homes.

Do you clean every day, or do you let it go for a few days? Let us know in the comments below.

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  • I am cleaning home every day…I couldn’t stand it not to be done…


  • Everyone tells me, with 4 teenage + kids that I should make them clean up after themselves , and if they don’t, leave it. Well I can’t do that. I have this thing with my house needing to look clean and tidy, so, even though my kids stress me, because they are lazy, and I work 5 days a week, I still come home to find their breakfast/lunch dishes everywhere, everything out of place, and nothing done. So, I start, every day, over and over again!! I hate it, but I can’t stand the mess, or begging for them to do it anymore :(


  • I used to clean up every day but now I make sure clothes are washed, folded and put away, dishes are done or stacked in dishwasher and put everything back where it belongs once I’ve finished with it. It’s maddening and depressing that I can no longer do as much as before. Back injury and acute pain limit what I can do these days but since there’s only me at home during the day until my son gets home the place is always reasonable.


  • I tidy every day! When I use something I put it back where it belongs. It’s not hard. My house is certainly not spotless but clean enough.


  • I couldn’t live like this. I get anxious if I go to bed & the washing up hasn’t been done. I try to tidy up the house each night before going to bed & it makes things easier for the next day.
    Each to their own though.


  • I’m out of work at the moment, so being able to clean the house every day is a luxury I can afford … when working though, I don’t have the time every day, so clean a few times a week.


  • I’m not obsessive but I tidy up every day vs cleaning (vac, mopping, etc.) less often. A messy house messes with my mind and makes me feel busier than I possibly am.


  • Yikes! I’m not a neat freak by any stretch of the imagination, but that’s a bit of an issue


  • I find when working full time. It is a struggle to clean every week, let alone every day! I’m hoping when I go on maternity leave, I’ll have more time to clean (if I have the energy) my son is 10 so between him and my partner the house doesn’t stay clean for very long at all!


  • I couldn’t let it get to the point of the videos shared, but I’m content to leave things overnight or for the day, but high traffics zones and food areas are cleaned as we go to avoid cross contamination


  • Personally I need my house clean in order to sleep if it’s a mess I find it hard to wind down, meaning that before I go to bed my dishwasher needs to be on as does the washing machine I just can’t deal with the time being wasted while I sleep.

    Ps I know this is obsessive but I grew up with a mother who suffers from OCD so you just become conditioned to the cleaning


  • It’s hard to clean everyday with kids that just make a mess as soon as you’ve cleaned. I use a robot cleaner it helps.


  • I am a person which gets anxious with mess myself and find I need to tidy the house in order to feel calm. I’m saying that I can also understand how easy it is to fall behind as long as we are content at the end of the day it doesn’t matter what we do in our homes


  • I find I get anxious when the house is untidy at the end of the day. I like to “reset” the house while my husband baths the kids in the evening. Perfect time management for me! ????‍♀️


  • This mess would drive me crazy. We clean up as we go. ie, when we clear the table we don’t leave everything piled in the sink and on the bench – we put stuff in the dishwasher and wipe the table.


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