Mum upset at the birthday cake police for ruining her young child’s birthday celebrations at school.

Mum shares, “It’s my three-year old’s birthday coming up soon and she will be having a party at her pre-school.

“The pre-school usually makes the birthday cake with the kids and then mum & dad come in the morning of the party and ice the cake with the birthday child and decorate it with sprinkles etc.

“This year, I was told that they are no longer doing icing or sprinkles on the cake as this is UNHEALTHY! The teachers said we’re lucky we’re even allowed to serve a cake! Seriously! I was fuming.

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“It’s my daughter’s special day and she can’t even have some fun coloured frosting on her cake.

“Isn’t all about having things in moderation? I am just so mad about this! Are you pro or anti-cake?”

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One mum agreed saying, “How is it cake if theres no sugar o.0 taking the icing off makes it a muffin or a bread/loaf. This is just absurd!”

Another said, “Find a new preschool. Birthdays are all about the cake for kids.”

Another shared, “People are just trying to ruin everyone’s fun these days! I’m all for healthy choices but 1 tiny piece of cake on your birthday isn’t going to make you obese or have health issues!”

“I think it’s ridiculous too! I get if there is a kid in the class with allergies you have to have something else or whatever, but if everyone can have cake…have the cake”, shared another.

“Whats the point of cake with no icing?! Yeah nah…”

“Everyone’s become ridiculous with stupid rules.”

“It’s too stupid for words!”

While other mums suggested to just host your own party and have whatever cake you want.

“Do it at home – teachers have enough work.”

“Have the cake at home!”

“So just do a ‘healthy‘ cake at pre-school and a ‘fun’ cake at home…? She doesn’t have to miss out just because she can’t have it at pre-school!”

“Just have a cake at home? When I was at school our cake was made out of polystyrene and we survived. I really don’t think there’s a need for a cake at school/daycare/kinder, especially when there’s 20+ other kids who have a birthday too.”

“If that’s the rules at the preschool then follow them and have the cake of your choice at home. ”

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  • never heard of that at my boy’s daycare… we’ve sent cakes every year…although eggless and nut free


  • Just do it at home then for sure. I can imagine the children loved it though. Shame they stopped.


  • Have the birthday celebration at home and ditch the one at pre-school.


  • I’m in two minds, I don’t like too much sugar in my son’s diet but I’d give it to him on his birthday. Ditto give her another cake at home with icing.


  • I don’t think it’s a problem to get too upset over. I’m sure it’s more th parents who get upset rather than the kids. Put a birthday badge on them for the day and I’m sure the kids will love just talking about how it’s their birthday! They get cake that night anyway yeah?


  • Yep, the fun police are back. How silly – everything in moderation!


  • Children who have special dietary needs often have to miss out and some very young ones don’t understand the risks involved eat it when they shouldn’t. There are many children who have wheat allergy or worse still have Coelic Disease which means no ordinary flour at all.


  • Just celebrate birthday’s at home then no one can be offended. When I was going to school no one ever brought in cake for their birthdays.

    • same here! i don’t recall ever having cake at kindy or school? only when we had a party at home or somewhere with friends


  • Firstly, if it’s a new policy, the preschool should properly have sent a note home to parents. Secondly, when did it become a thing that birthdays have to be celebrated at preschool and primary school? It’s problematic for lots of reasons. What about for those where their families don’t care, can’t come, or are not interested in attending the school for their child; or who can’t afford to provide a cake. I think these celebrations are best left for home and pre/schools can choose a different way to acknowledge someone’s birthday.


  • Hasn’t the cake got a lot of sugar in it anyway. What’s a bit more with icing for the day. It’s getting so ridiculous these days.


  • Schools are for learning. My children pre schools let us take a cake into the class. Though for the younger ones the rules did change as more children now have allergies. Better to have a really great cake at home, less hassle.


  • This wasn’t done at my kids school when they were little, we just bought in our own cake or muffins/cupcakes. I am surprised a school would even do this but to be honest, the celebrating with the special cake should be done at home with friends and family, not at school.


  • Well you may just say its only one piece of cake… but once you celebrate every child’s birthday that’s a lot of cake.


  • Oh my goodness! Suck all the fun out of kids birthdays! Ridiculous nanny state we’re living in! So sad


  • I agree with banning the cake, it is unhealthy and only encouraging kids to associate sweet things with treats and birthdays. Three year old’s really are not that bothered either way, so I don’t know who is more disappointed, surely it is the parents, they can make their day special in their own way when they get home. Seems parents are looking to get mad at a lot of things that are supposed to be better for all children. Also some of the kids miss out on getting a cake and would feel like their birthdays are not special.


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