A new mum has asked if she is being unreasonable to prevent her family and friends from holding her newborn baby.
A pregnant mum has asked if she is being unreasonable to prevent her family and friends from holding her newborn baby for at least six weeks.
The mum says that only feels comfortable with herself or her partner holding the baby, which will be her second child, when it is newborn as she believes the first four to six weeks are a crucial time for bonding.
Need Some Space
After telling her own mother of the plan, the mum says she began to feel some doubt about her decision.
“I told my mother this yesterday and she says she respects my right to parent whichever way I wish, but says she can’t help but feel upset at being excluded from the first month of her new grandchild’s life,” she wrote on Mumsnet. “I feel terrible that I have upset her… but my partner and I really feel that it is best not to overload our newborn with other people.”
When their first child was born, the family say they were inundated with visitors and felt as though they missed a crucial opportunity to adjust to life with their newborn baby.
A Difficult Decision
Comments on the post said that the mum’s decision could cause a divide within the family.
“It’s your choice but I find it very strange,” one wrote. “The more people who love, support and are close to your child, the better it is for them.”
“Don’t you want your family to be able to bond with the baby too?” another asked. “Grandparents can play such an important role in a child’s life. It would be a shame to put a wedge there.”
While we completely sympathise with this mum, especially when it comes to the challenge of entertaining visitors while also caring for a newborn, we can’t help but feel that setting such strict boundaries is taking things too far.
Do you think this mum has the right idea or is she doing more harm than good? Let us know in the comments.