One mum reached the end of her patience after her vegan daughter was trying to force her lifestyle on the rest of the family. When her daughter pushed too far, the mum snapped! But was the punishment too harsh?

It’s not easy to follow a strict vegan diet when you’re living in a family of carnivores. A mum is struggling with her vegan daughter and recently reached out on Reddit sharing how she snapped.

The mum said that her 16-year-old daughter decided to opt for a vegan diet about a year ago. The family tried to be as supportive as possible. However, it was tricky when she tried to convince the family to join her in veganism and grew angry when the family resisted.

Don’t Make It Our Problem!

“My husband and I shut that behaviour down hard and told her that she can follow whatever diet she wanted, but she cannot expect others to.

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“We aren’t a family that eats meat daily, so it wasn’t hard for me to accommodate her,” the mum explained in her post.

“When I do cook meat, I also make something else for her and keep the side dishes common for all.

What My Vegan Daughter Did!

“Last weekend, I cooked the family a big pot of chilli (a small vegan one and a large beef one), so that I can refrigerate it and use it for the next week.

“The next day, I found the fridge empty of both, and it turns out my daughter decided that we were being too callous about meat.”

The teen said the smell was “too much”, and complained she couldn’t get anything from the fridge without gagging or puking.

Throw It Out!

She said that the meat had now contaminated all the other vegan products in the fridge so all the existing vegan food had to be thrown out and restocked.

“Wasting food is never okay with us and that was a lot of food,” the mum said.

“I told her I am going to continue using the vegan products in the fridge and she can either eat it or not – but I am not wasting food.

“That whole week, she kept making faces at dinner while she ate.”

The Punishment

As punishment for throwing out all the food, the mum told her daughter that she had to cook a meal from a specific recipe. The recipe she was given included meat.

“I told her that wasting food is never okay in this house and pointed out that instead of x amount of meat being used, 2x amount of meat was used because she threw the food away,” the mum explained.

“She started crying and yelling at me about how awful and disgusting I was because I not only forced her to buy meat but to cook it.”

The mum then ended the post asking whether she had been too harsh in her punishment.


Many of the replies were firmly in support of the mum.

“She needs to understand that not everything can go her way in life and that actions have consequences,” said one commenter.

“I am a vegan too and while I agree with your daughter’s lifestyle choice I do not agree with her approach in trying to recruit others,” said another.

“She literally wasted those animals’ lives – so now those animals died for absolutely nothing, which honestly bothers me much more than someone eating them,” read another angry comment.

“If the smell of other people’s food is too much for her, encourage her to buy her own mini-fridge and keep her food in that,” suggested someone else.

Do you think the punishment fitted the crime? Was this mum being fair to her vegan daughter? Tell us in the comments below.

  • I think this mum was being extremely good in trying to comply with her daughters requirements and the daughter has to realise that she has to comply with the rest of the family too.


  • I think the daughter needs to learn that if she wants people to respect her choice to be vegan then she need to respect other peoples choice not to be.


  • I commend this Mum on using this action. Her daughter sounds like she believes she is right and everyone else is wrong. I agree with the comment she should buy herself a small fridge and keep all of her special food in that. Maybe she should start cooking her own food and then she might realise she went about things wrong.


  • Wow! All I can think of is what a little brat! Food is expensive and get behaviour is completely inexcusable. I completely agree with the mum and I’d have made her pay for all the food that was wasted too.


  • Wow! I can just imagine that household. I can understand and appreciate the Mum’s reaction. She has done everything to accommodate and support her daughter’s food choices. Her daughter needs to show the same respect and to not push her ideals onto others.


  • It’s her choice of be vegan.But not good destroying others lifestyle.


  • I think what the mum did was good! The daughter needs to learn that the world doesn’t revolve around her! She needs to be respectful of everything from the food to the family and she also needs to learn to be accommodating just as her family is of her. Some people are so self absorbed especially these days. As someone already said, get her to buy her own fridge if she’s not happy.


  • I don’t think I would make her cook meat, but I would tell her to stop pushing her lifestyle choice on to others and except that some people eat meat and she probably did too until she made her choice so let others make their own choices.


  • Think it’s reasonable no one should force their opinions on others


  • With all due respect to the daughter and her beliefs I believe the Mother did the right thing. It all goes back to values and treating children about life and consequences of one;s actions.


  • Not ok the daughter thought to force her family to follow veganism and took it so far that she cleared the whole fridge out because the meat contaminated the rest of the products. And that whilst her family respected her choices and accommodated with alternatives.
    I’m not a vegan but a vegetarian since I was 11 yrs old and I too struggled greatly with facing and handling meat. My mum still asked me to go to the butcher to get meat for the family and I would gag of the sight and smell and with tears in my eyes did what I was asked. I married a carnivore and absolutely wanted to cook for the one I love. I don’t like touching raw meat and use a plastic bag or gloves to handle it when cooking. It’s easier when it semi frozen. I have a meat department in freezer and fridge and everything is well packet. It doesn’t contaminate the rest.


  • I think that was a good punishment.
    Totally agree with that other Vegan that that animal was totally wasted getting thrown in the bin and now another has to die for another meal.
    You can go your own way but don’t try and push others into your beliefs as it just makes things worse.


  • She is fine to own lifestyle of food choices but never should force anyone to follow


  • M with the commenter who said her actions meant the animal died for nothing. Like it or not meat IS eaten and what she threw out could have fed people who don’t get to eat every day. She was selfish and down right stupid in her actions. I don’t think getting her to cook a replacement meal was asking too much, it’s not like she had to go out and kill the animal!


  • Throwing the food out was terrible and making the daughter cook meat is also not the best idea. If she doesn’t eat meat then it’s quite forceful to make her cook it. I personally would support the daughter for being vegan but then make her do extra chores and make a vegetarian meal for everyone, to make up for her silly behaviour of throwing the family’s food out.


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