The mum-to-be says her partner’s surname is very unusual and she doesn’t want her child to be teased.
A worried mum has taken to popular parenting forum Mumsnet to ask if she is being unreasonable to not want to use her partner’s surname for her baby. With the baby due any day now, the mum said that the situation is causing tension between her and her partner as he is adamant that the baby will have his name.
The mum-to-be says that despite choosing the rest of the baby’s name without a problem, difficulty arose when deciding which surname the baby would take. “(My partner’s) surname is very unusual and when hearing it for the first time, people often laugh,” she said. “I feel like it’s unfair to inflict the name (it is quite awful, it’s hard to describe without actually saying what it is) on a brand new person!” The mum says she tried discussing it with her partner but he didn’t like any of her suggestions. “I have suggested that she could have my name, we could choose a new name, we could all have a new name…but he is adamant,” she said.
For The Best
Commenters on the post encouraged the mum not to give in to her partner’s request. “I think your reasons are sound,” wrote one forum user. “If he’s determined for the baby to have his surname, tell him it’s double barrel or nothing, at least giving your child the chance to drop the embarrassing name if it becomes an issue for them.” Others pointed out that the mum was as much entitled to use her surname for her child as her partner. “Why are some people so obsessed with babies being given the father’s name?” said one commenter. “They seem so personally offended at any other suggestion.”
We think this mum should ask her partner to consider what is best for their child – if he experienced bullying at school as a result of his name, perhaps it would be worth considering a change? Double barrel surnames are so on-trend at the moment!
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