A mum has asked if it would be unfair to tell her husband that she wants to spend her first Mother’s Day without his family around.
A mum has taken to Reddit to ask if would be unreasonable to ask her husband to spend Mother’s Day without his family around. The mum says it is her first Mother’s Day and she would like to have some control over what is involved, rather than catering to her mother-in-law and grandmother-in-law.
Needing Some Space
After having lunch with her husband’s family, the mum says she felt like she had no say in what Mother’s Day would involve. “This Mother’s Day will be my first official Mother’s Day as a new mum,” she wrote on the forum. “That said, it will most likely be my grandmother-in-law’s last Mother’s Day. I would really like to spend my first Mother’s Day with just my own nuclear family (my husband and my son), but at lunch with my mother-in-law today, she basically told us what we would be doing for Mother’s Day and that we didn’t have a choice.”
The mum says that her history with her mother-in-law also makes the situation more difficult. “I think I’m especially sensitive to big family plans with my husband’s family because she often makes plans FOR us rather than asking,” she wrote.
Comments on the mum’s post sympathised with her situation. “The grandmother is not your mother and it’s not like it’s her last day,” wrote one forum user. “Your husband has a new family now, and new commitments.” “Start putting your foot down,” said another. “Don’t let her ruin your lives.”
While most believed the mum was entitled to her ideal Mother’s Day, others said the decision is a little selfish. “She’s your husband’s mother and your baby’s grandmother,” one comment said. “Maybe you can find it in your heart to graciously grant her this Mother’s Day, from one mum to another.”
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