A mother has revealed her heartbreak after being told to tone down her daughter’s colourful gravesite.

Kirra Rose Sim was just 19 years old when she tragically died in a car accident on Father’s Day in 2012.

Since then, her mother has visited her final resting place at the Bendigo Cemetery, in central Victoria, almost every day.

Her family have added mementos, flowers and installed a seat for public use – all painted her favourite colour purple and decorated with butterflies.

But Ms Sim recently received a letter claiming the vibrant gravesite had been the subject of numerous complaints and that it was in breach of policy guidelines, reports Daily Mail.

She has been given 21 days to take them down or face further action.

Kirra’s brother, Trent Sim, has since started a petition begging the cemetery to leave his sister’s gravesite alone. Over 1600 people have already signed it.

‘Kirra’s grave is a place for us all to go and be close to her, a place that we keep in the best possible condition and is a reflection of her,’ he said.

‘Mum visits almost daily and always makes sure that everything is neat, tidy and clean.

Mr Sim said the grave was being unfairly ‘singled out’ because it was ‘a little brighter than most’.

Remembrance Parks Central Victoria boss Graham Fountain told The Age the only issue he had was with the concrete colour of her grave.

‘Every grave and every funeral we have at the cemetery is a tragedy for the family,’ he told the publication.

Mr Fountain said he couldn’t possibly let everyone paint their grave’s a different colour because it was not ‘conducive of the appearance that people expect.’

‘There are other ways to recognise someone’s favourite colours. We just ask the community to work with us so it’s a win-win for everyone and complies with our safety guidelines,’ he said.

You can find details to support the family below.

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  • Don’t see the issue, the family paid for this site


  • i don’t have a problem with this so why should it bother other people?


  • I love the gravesite and personally I would have no issue with graves being different colours


  • I don’t care what other people do with their gravesites, as long as they leave my son’s alone (e stop stealing his flowers). I wouldn’t be bothered even if this was next to him.


  • I don’t see a problem with the grave site at all.


  • It is amazing that those complaining haven’t got a life to lead of their own. Perhaps they are jealous of the attention this one gravesite gets because it is visited every day and the gravesite they visit is only sporadic.


  • How disturbing this family is not free to express their own and their daughters preferences in her grave site !


  • Seriously ….and so they should pursue a petition to save this personal and beautiful grave-site.
    There is a grave site at our local cemetery that is also colourful and surrounded with toys and memento’s and it is simply delightful.
    Some people wear black to a funeral (to morn the departed), some wear bright colours and rejoice in the colourful life the departed had and some people wear the departed persons favourite colour in loving memory. All people are different and live and morn in different ways …this poor family have done nothing wrong and are keeping this grave site clean, fresh and beautifully coloured ..it’s a pleasant pretty memorial in a place that can be dark and cold.
    All my love and heartfelt wishes to this family.


  • It is a beautiful grave site dedicated to her daughter,l cannot see how people have an issue with it.


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