A mum drew a picture of a girlie bow on a Post-It note and stuck it to her daughter’s head when a daycare teacher suggested she should dress her more “like a girl”.

Jessica Rold’s husband, Steve, shared the photo of his daughter on Reddit with the headline, ‘How my wife dressed our daughter the day after the teachers at daycare told her we should really be dressing her more like a girl.’

“We never bothered to find out the genders of our children ahead of time,” Steve told website Babble, “so most of what my daughter wears at the moment are hand-me-downs we bought before we knew our son was even going to be a boy.”

bow in hair

‘I couldn’t care less if someone mistakes her for a boy,’ said Steve on Reddit. ‘And since she’s a freaking baby, it’s not like she’s going to be offended.’

How my wife dressed our daughter the day after the teachers at daycare told her we should really be dressing her more like a girl. from r/daddit

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  • Because I had practically no hair until I was about 2 y.o. although I was in pink embroidered jumpers, jackets or dresses some still asked my Mum how old her little boy was.


  • Yes, my daughte wore a lot of her brothers’ hand me downs too. Who cares?


  • Good on them- who cares what a child wears to daycare! They’re there to play and get a bit dirty. I didn’t realise it was a fashion show!


  • Wow, I didn’t realise it was now the job description of child care operators to advise on dress code and fashion. I love the Mum’s response.


  • Love it, she looks perfectly fine to me.


  • Great response, daycare doesn’t have the right to advise, it is not their business and totally inappropriate.


  • I used to get the same comments. When I was expecting the first time I didn’t know if it would be a boy or a girl so I bought baby clothes in primary colours, of red yellow and blue, which were actually very fashionable colours at the time! For some reason people assumed she was a boy because she wasn’t wearing pink!
    When they did a photo shoot at a daycare event I took her to, the photographer put trucks and cars on the shelf behind her, assuming my daughter was a boy. I felt so annoyed at the time, all the assumptions, including them thinking only boys would like trucks.
    Fast forward to today and my daughter is in her 20’s, a perfectly normal girl, and actually very feminine, so being dressed in blue didn’t harm her in anyway, lol.


  • I would have ripped into them because it is none of their business & they need to read up on how this sort of stereotyping is affecting our children. When I grew up we wore whatever fit us at the time, we did not have very much left over after my father drunk most of his income so we wore hand me downs which we shared amongst several families. It should not matter what these young kids were as long as it is comfortable & functionable. It is no wonder that they grow up with body image issues if they are being exposed to this sort of attitude from those who are supposed to be caring & educating them.


  • I would have done similar along with a rant about how stereotyping kids is harmful to them and no wonder girls have so many body issues if how she is dressed is judged as a baby


  • I would have just laughed at them!


  • I would’ve done the same :D


  • I don’t know how I would have responded, but I wouldn’t have stuck a post it note on my child. Disrespectful to the child and a very passive-aggressive response.


  • I would have probably told them it was no business of theirs how I dressed my child! Typical stereotyping – shame on the daycare!

    • Stereotyping makes me quite sad too – there is just no need for it.


  • Love it. My daughters get called boys all the time due to having really slow hair growth. I can dress them all in pink & even pretty headbands & they still get mistaken for being boys.


  • How we choose to dress our children is no one elses business, as long as they are comfortable, warm or cool enough and clothes are in respectable condition.


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