School is back and parents are back to the dreaded school drop off and pickup. It’s certainly not the best part of the day for most that’s for sure.

Back to School pickup time! I honestly despise it. Even though school pickup has changed a bit since COVID hit, it’s still stressful.

Maybe it is a confidence thing? I don’t know really. But I have always found it to be very intimidating and quite stressful at times.

Seems as though I am not alone either!

Mums shared how they feel about school pickup

Mums joined in our discussion on the topic of school pickup with a surprising amount of people saying they avoid it like the plague.

Kendall admitted she always stays in the car until about 5 mins before the doors open to let the kids out.

Melanie said she even stays in the car until the bell rings!

Nikki admitted she stays in the car and parks FAR away. lol

Rianna is lucky, she shared that her school has a drive through system for afternoon pick up! “Best invention ever.”

Melissa said she opts to get there late after the masses, “He gets in we leave. Very anti-social Mum here.”

How To Avoid The School Scene

Some parents shared they are lucky that their children either catch the bus to school or walk by themself so they get to avoid the school scene altogether.

While Bec gave us some encouraging words, “Find your own tribe. Trust me… there will be other mums thinking the exact same as you! They usually hide near their cars out of sight. I know cos this was me & my mum friends!”

Melissa also added, “I always get out. How is the world going to be a better place if we don’t lead by example? Say hello, be kind. Smile. Don’t get caught in the gossip or if you do, diffuse the situation with a little bit of empathy. It’s possible, I promise!”

What do you do? Stay in the car and keep to yourself or get out and mingle with all the other parents?

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  • So interesting how many people hate pleasantries. I could talk paint off the walls so can’t see myself loathing these interactions.


  • I lived so far away from the school so my kids caught the bus. I didnt have to deal with this at all.


  • I always used to mingle. Currently I pick my youngest up from the gate before everyone else is out. She has special needs and doesn’t do well in the crowds, she’s a runner too so rather dangerous.. As soon as In pick her up from the gate we get in the car and wait there till my other kids arrive. I keep the doors from the car open and am happy to chat with any and everyone


  • Being kind and setting an example for kids is certainly very important.


  • I do a bit of both


  • I am actually surprised there are so many mums who apparently avoid picking up their own kids like the plague.
    When I did school pick up, I liked getting there early and seeing various people and chatting to them and finding how they were going (and for the record, I am NOT in any way or form outgoing). My kids are at a small school and so yes this does mean less parents… but still up to 200 with the whole school being counted.
    I now work at my kids school, so I’m there all day. My kids find me when they leave their classrooms and then run off to play with the rest of the staff kids until it’s time for us to go home.


  • I hate talking to other mums, I avoid it also.


  • Always give yourself extra time schools are never a place you want to rush


  • Sometimes it’s really hard to crack into groups of mums who already know each other. But I agree, I park far away and walk slowly haha


  • I time it so i get to the classroom just as the bell rings so I pick up and go.


  • It never bothered me although it doesn’t surprise me that some mums can be bitchy. Our school has strict pickup guidelines that don’t encourage mingling (due to the pandemic)


  • People shouldn’t feel so intimidated. I used to rock up and wait outside the classroom, nod, smile, say hello and wait but never mingle, why should I? Those other mums weren’t my family or friends and I’m not into clicky little groups and back biting gossip but we all have as much right to be there to collect our children as the next person no matter who they think they are or whatever gossipy behaviours they have and our children’s school is our school as well.


  • Yay for the school bus, I never had to worry about school pick up and drop off. Is it really this bad?!


  • I wait in the car and the kids walk to my car. Absolutely hate school pickup and the way parents cluster is horrible. It’s easier to sit in the car and wait.


  • I wait in the car and she walks down to where I parked. Much easier and quicker. She will walk with a friend if there friend’s parents parked our way.


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