Latching a baby to one’s breast isn’t as easy nor as picturesque as you see portrayed in all those pregnancy pamphlets, mother’s groups and almost everywhere you look. But that is no excuse for a dad not to play a part when it comes to breastfeeds.

Those mothers who breastfeed in public without flashing an entire crowd of unsuspecting people in the process make it look unfairly effortless! Heck, if I were to attempt something like attaching my baby to my boob in a public place, not only would I flash the entire mob but I’d most likely spray a few innocent passers-by as well as drop my tiny baby in the process!

Breastfeeding doesn’t always happen naturally – and this is coming from someone who has been doing it continuously for over a decade now.

It’s New To Everyone

From my experience, babies don’t actually fully understand how to feed when you first meet. It’s awkward because the second you’re introduced, part of the general greeting process is to latch them to one of your boobies. The only problem being neither of you have ever done that before – even if it’s not your first baby, each newbie reacts differently and will make that initial latch as unique as they are.

Your Partner Can Help With Breastfeeds Too!

If you’ve entered into the baby raising scene as a team with someone else, I think it’s vital to remember that they’re in this with you. You’re not alone. And guess what? They are capable of latching your baby to you just as much as you are!

Think about it this way – if the lactation consultants and midwives are able to attach your baby into your boob, whilst teaching you how to do it yourself – then why can’t your spouse?

Hubby Has Learned To Latch

I strongly believe that if I’m doing something vital to my health, like sleeping, then it’s my hubby’s responsibility to feed the baby and often that has meant latching our little one correctly without waking me – AND I LOVE IT!!!

Why should I be the only one breaking sleep just because I’ve chosen to breastfeed!?

Both parents should be capable of feeding their new little addition. Whether it’s breast or bottle, fed is always best. And if that means that a partner needs to learn how to unhook a nursing bra so that they can somehow manage to wrangle a small screaming starving little blessing to its mother’s breast, then so be it!

Breastfeed for safeties sake

I Don’t Even Need To Be Awake

Realistically I don’t really need to even be awake to breastfeed. Either way, my body will naturally let down the milk the second the baby takes a big mouthful of breast and starts suckling regardless of whether I’m conscious or not. So why wake me for the process?

Admittedly it did take me a long time to realise this. In fact, we only learned it out of necessity eventually when I started missing out on so much sleep that finally when I did crash my hubby couldn’t actually wake me. I’d be completely passed out from the severe lack of sleep so the poor bloke had no choice but to learn quickly how to breastfeed.

Don’t wait until it’s too late!

My advice to my children will be not to wait until they reach that level of exhaustion. If they choose to breastfeed then make sure to include their spouse from day one to secure their sleep!

Whoever said that breastfeeding is exclusive to mother’s anyway?! It works perfectly as a shared responsibility… in my case especially, perhaps even better!

Hubby ‘breastfeeds’ better than I do!

I’d never confess this to my hubby and thankfully he doesn’t ever read anything I write, but that man latches a baby better than I do. I think it might have to do with angles and how he approaches the latch, either way if you can sleep through even 1 out of the 10+ feeds you’re going to do in a day, then why not!

Best of luck Mama’s, however you choose to feed!

Did/does/would your partner get involved with breastfeeds? Tell us in the comments below.

  • I’d wake up


  • My partner used to get our first born up through the night and change him, then bring him to me for feeding. I got nothing with the second one. I would wake up if someone was trying to latch onto my boob


  • I think it’s a mother’s instinct to wake when baby cries. There’s no way my partner would have been able to do this for me without me waking up. Not even in a deep sleep. If it works for other people though I think it’s a fantastic thing to do.


  • Wow – I’ve never heard of anyone doing that – that is amazing!


  • This is good to read.


  • What a clever post – thanks for sharing. I was lucky with my kids latching on, but I would sure expect some help after reading your musings. Thanks again.


  • I love this so much! I have a very involved hubby and while we joked that I was so exhuasted he would have to do it for me we never actually went through with it….I wish we had lol


  • Wow how do you manage to stay asleep while the baby is on you? That’s impressive. I would love to involve my husband if the bub takes the bottle but he’s now refusing the bottle.


  • Sadly, breastfeeding was unavailable to me and during the first week, due to post-birth medical complications I had to swap to formula feeding. Now that, my hubby was a champion at. There was quite a time when I was even unable to do that, so he stepped up and was amazing.


  • My husband never involved with breastfeeding.


  • I love this article and I never thought about involving my husband in the feeding process.


  • I reckon the baby learns to do it pretty quickly. The reward for them is huge and is enough motivation.


  • Interesting article – more husbands should be involved!

    • Absolutely! My hubby was terrific and I was so tired that it was an incredible team effort!


  • I think it is a wonderful idea! Why not? If hubby can be woken up and can stay awake for the duration of the feed then it is a great way to catch up on one’s much needed sleep also.


  • My hubby helped as much as he could. I am a very light sleeper though and always get to bub before he is crying. I hear him moving around and get up


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