A furious expecting mum has lashed out at her mother for inviting hundreds of people to her baby shower, which is being hosted by a friend.

The mum-to-be says her mum posted the baby shower invitation on Facebook, to her 500+ friends, with the caption, “Who wants to come celebrate with us?!”

“My hubby’s close family friend offered to host us at her private home. We had already discussed a set guest list of 30 people. The invitation included the home address and personal¬†mobile number of the host,” the expecting mum explained on reddit.

“My mother-in-law called me freaking out about the family friend’s privacy. I told her I would contact my mother immediately and I profusely apologised. I thought my mum would private message the guest list we had discussed.”

Incredibly, her mum didn’t seem fazed by the error – in fact, she was annoyed at having to remove the invitation.

“My mum responded by saying we were over-reacting. She said, ‘OHHH MY GOD’. Then said she was in the middle of something and was too busy to take down the post immediately. I got upset and told her that since Facebook is connected to her phone she could delete the post in less than two minutes and that I would redesign an announcement that she could share freely. She repeated she was busy and would do it by the end of the day.

“I understand the excitement, but I want to be really respectful of the host since she is being kind and saving us a lot of $ for this special celebration.

“Am I the a**hole for getting upset and embarrassed by my mum’s behaviour?”

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  • No No No. That’s just so bad. I would be so upset. Too many people, especially when it was discussed.


  • thats alot of people. I dont have 500 friends


  • Very rude and who wants 500 people at your baby shower anyway


  • No one should ever cross the line with such behaviour.


  • If that was me it happened to, I would be furious, especially seeing it wasn’t in a park or a generic venue that could hold that many people. Your mum was out of line. I am a take over freak but I would have liaised with with you and your husband on who to invite. It’s not alright to just invite every person you know on Facebook. You are not the a***hole at all unfortunately your mum is.


  • Oh my god, I would be soo mad.


  • I would have been angrier than you sound to have been. I refuse to go on social media just in case I make a mistake with it as I am not that cluey technically wise.


  • It’s very disrespectful behaviour on the mother’s part to invite people to someone else’s house, not to mention posting someone’s home and phone details online. And then to get annoyed at having to take down the post … wow!

    • It is completely astounding and unacceptable.


  • Just wondering how often does the MUM SITE post stories straight from other sites …word for word

    Any how the answer is this mum should get her mum to post an update and change of address and date to the mum to be mum\’s address etc and her mum can foot the bill as well as the venue. Two showers for the poor mum to be but hey stay only a short while and enjoy the stress free shower and don\’t lift a finger but enjoy the gifts and food.


  • I would never do something like that to my daughter, what was she thinking!


  • Wow!! I mean is she paying for it and hosting it herself? Thats insane.


  • Your mum is definitely in the wrong. Yes, she may be excited but she needs to understand that your baby is not about her and she’s not the one hosting or paying for the baby shower either. I’d be really upset with her as well.


  • OMG, that is so wrong and her Mum needed to fix this immediately.


  • Not over-reacting at all. Some grand parents seem to see their kids having kids is a do-over for them (and weddings too!).


  • Wow, that’s beyond rude. Plus you never share such private information openly like that, it’s very public.


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