A heartbroken father says he’s still in disbelief, after his wife of nine years revealed she no longer wants their three and five-year-old daughters, because she regrets having kids.
The 35-year-old dad says he and his 33-year-old wife have been together since university, and she did initially tell him she didn’t like kids.
“While I was a little disappointed, I didn’t care too much about it,” he explained. “I didn’t feel very strongly about it either way. We were very in love and things were perfect for a good while.
“Her birth control failed six years ago, and I told her that I would support whatever choice she made. She scheduled an abortion, but backed out the day before and we became loving and enthusiastic parents. Later on down the road, she decided she wanted another child and so we had our second daughter. They are five and three years old, and absolutely perfect. They are both very well behaved and ahead of the curve for kids their ages.”
While his wife is a stay-at-home-mum, the dad says he has a very demanding job that includes monthly trips away from home, and long days at the office. He says he makes good money and they have never financially struggled. This arrangement has worked for the past few years, but the dad says he recently noticed a shift in his wife’s behaviour.
“For the past few months, I’ve known something was up with my wife. She is obviously the primary caretaker of our daughters, but recently she’s been completely hands off when I’m at home. I don’t mind spending the extra time with my daughters taking care of them, but it’s more than that.
“She will completely ignore them while I’m around. If they ask her for anything at all she tells them “go ask Daddy” and will go in our bedroom and lock the door to get away from them. I’ve been asking her if she’s alright, and she had been insisting everything was fine until last night.”
“After we put the kids to bed, she came to me and sat me down at the table. She started talking about fun things we had done right after we got married, what a great adventure everything had been, just generally reminiscing. She was being sweet and funny and loving and my guard was down. She said “back before we had the girls, we could do anything we wanted. I wish we could go back to that.” I asked her what she meant.
“After much prodding she admitted that she regretted having kids. I said that there were times where I felt overwhelmed too, but that I would always love our daughters. She got quiet. She mumbled something and I asked her to say it again. She yelled “I DON’T LOVE THEM” and then started sobbing.
“I sat there with my mouth hanging open. She composed herself and then started talking again. She was saying how she had been looking into adoption agencies and foster care. She had contacted one agency already. She was making plans to give away my CHILDREN. I continued to listen, too dumbfounded to say a word, as she babbled on about how amazing it’s going to be to have our lives back, how great our relationship will be when we don’t have kids anymore.”
The dad-of-two says he waited until his wife went to bed, then packed up his daughters and went to his mums.
“I have a ton of missed calls, voicemails, and texts from my wife. I haven’t looked at any of them. I’ve spent the day talking to my mum about things and keeping the girls occupied. My mom doesn’t know what to do either.
“I’m thinking I have a couple of options: start calling lawyers or start calling mental health professionals. Maybe both. I don’t know if she’s having some kind of psychotic delusion or if she’s just that awful of a person. I really don’t want to go back home to her now. Ever. I’m thinking divorce is the best choice, but I can’t take care of my kids on my own. What should my next move be? Should I try to call my wife?”
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