Have you ever had a bit of a chat to yourself? You know, the kind that sometimes is helpful, and sometimes not so much.
In recent years, I use my ‘inner voice’ like I’m Aretha Franklin (R.E.S.P.E.C.T), or even Beyonce (Who’ll run the world’?). Clearly my mantras are driven by strong, powerful women and their music. When I’m struggling through a run, or a 30 minute set on the stationary bike, I tend to use these mantras to get through it. I know how powerful the mind can be on the journey to health.
I was not always so strong, or determined, or even remotely motivated. My mantras were not always so positive.
Judging by most people I know or have met, I know that negative self talk is far more common than we like to admit… and god forbid we put it out there for the world to see. I’m sure there are plenty of times I have called myself a Fat Bitch, I’m sure that there are other women out there that have done the same…. Is it healthy? Is it acceptable? Is it right? Never. God, I’d hate to think about the names I’ve called myself over the years….
What about “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels”? A mantra I used after I had my 2nd bub. I was much heavier than I anticipated (my last weigh in at about 38 weeks was 100kgs), and it really didn’t ‘fall off’ like it did with my first.
I’m sure it had something to do with the fruit tingles and coke that I craved (and ate) throughout the pregnancy.
The ‘nothing tastes’ mantra is from supermodel Kate Moss – not a particularly healthy individual, and certainly not someone to look up to when trying to be healthy. However, I used that mantra to convince myself that I was not hungry, particularly when I was not listening to my body and eating far too much. I had talked myself into being hungry all the time, regardless of when my last meal was, or my last snack.
Isn’t it funny how much your head can control? I no longer use the Kate Moss mantra… I simply listen to my body. I eat when I’m hungry.
Sometimes you have to talk yourself into the positive and out of the negative. There are so many cliché sayings out there, some are definitely ‘eye roll worthy’, but if something resonates with you then stick with it.
Maybe we should stop being ruled by the ‘number’…. The weight… the measurement…. And worry about our energy and our happiness.
While I’ve lost 43kgs, my body will never be perfect, but it’s what I’ve got to work with. It has taken me some time, I love it (don’t get me wrong, there are things I would change), but I appreciate that I have the energy to run around with my kids. You will never see a picture perfect me on Instagram. No playing around with our thighs to make a thigh gap, no airbrushing, no reducing our waist size. There are no make up artists or PR machines behind our brand. I really do keep it real.
Getting healthy is not always Kale smoothies and Acai bowls, despite what Instagram would have you believe…….
Be true to yourself. Love yourself. Enough of the comparisons.
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