I think gift registers are naff. Sure, if its wedding gifts or baby shower gifts, include a list of things you have and don’t need with the invitation. But don’t include a list of wanted gifts and the stores to buy them from. Just wrong

I hate the idea of registers. She did the right thing

I think she took a perfectly acceptable approach.

Gift registries should always include a good price range so you can pick from the cheaper items too.

There is no need to feel bad if you have discussed this with your brother and bought something that is within your budget and something the baby can use.

Not the A$$hole. Baby’s don’t need all that expensive stuff anyway.

I think gifting like this is getting out of hand. Your gift is thoughtful and considered after discussions with your brother. I think that’s absolutely fine.

Do what you’re comfortable with and what you can afford.

I think a mum to be needs to be thankful for everything she gets because at the end of the day it’s all given out of love and every little bit helps. Even small items that you might not think of like nail clippers, etc. are useful. I didn’t even have a registry.
I also don’t think there is any harm in simply giving cash – at least then the parents can use the money towards buying a larger item.

Do what you can within your budget! Its unreasonable to expect everyone else to buy the expensive presents. Maybe the other way the mum to be should look at it is, if the smaller stuff is accounted for they have spare funds to buy the big stuff themselves.

Never feel forced to buy a certain present for a certain price !

Registries are great to prevent double or triple the gifts of surprises but most places, the cost of the items are ridiculously too high! And That’s fair enough if you refuse to buy an expensive item. With cost of living and sometimes, you can find the same thing cheaper elsewhere. May not be the exact brand but it would be just good enough. I remember my SIL had a baby shower for her 4th pregnancy as she was having twins. On her list was all these over priced fancy “eco” stuff. We saw a picture of a pram that was $120, thought “that’s reasonable for a twin pram”… Upon looking at it, it was actually $120 for a “pram bag” for the the pram. It was a branded one. So we settled on getting resusable nappy covers. Sometimes, I don’t think some expecting mothers realise that not everyone is made of money. If anything, gift voucher may be an option for them to put towards their expensive item that they can buy for themselves.

A gift is from the heart not from the amount you spend. You’ve done nothing wrong.

People take a lot of time putting together a registry because those are the things they want/need. If you can’t afford anything from it, just get a gift card for baby bunting or Coles or something. I hate people buying me things I don’t need or want, or I’ve already got. Always ask!

Not everyone can afford a lot of money for something that will only be used for a short amount of time. They did the right thing by giving 1 gift from the family. I kind of like registries as it takes the wonder out of what they need. But if I couldn’t afford what was on the registry I would either pool with someone else or buy something I could afford.

You did what you had to do to survive. You will get through this and good on you for admitting this and working on it. You can do it ????

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  • • mom484925 replied
    • 13 Aug 2024 , 8:17 pm

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  The questions marks at the end of the last comment were a mistake, it was an emoji that didn’t show up.

I think she’s found a good compromise, asking Dad and then clubbing together with other family memebers.

Nothing wrong with not wanting bits and pieces you won’t use or won’t like, but there should be an option for a cash gift. That way the parents can pick what the gift cash will go to and buy the rest themselves.

I think you should be very lucky for what you get and be thankful you get something.

Not everyone has huge amounts of money to spend on a baby who will outgrow all these things so very, very fast.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 14 Aug 2024 , 5:09 am

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  Babies do indeed grow out of everything so fast; the baby stage goes by so quickly.

Honestly I think it’s flat out rude to ask for presents full stop, regardless of cost. If someone “wants” to purchase a gift of whatever value then it should be appreciated.