A group of mums has called out their friend, after she decided to bring her seven-year-old daughter to a luxurious spa day. And before you judge these mums for what they did, you need to know everything that led up to the blow up.

One of the mums has taken to the internet, because she wants to understand if they were too harsh on their friend.

“My friend Emily has a 7 year old daughter Milly who she brings every time we meet up either when it’s just the two of us or with a group of our other friends,” she explained.

“Emily insists Milly wants to come but it’s frustrating as we can never have a conversation without her giving her opinion or Milly takes over and Emily sits smiling proudly, she often comments on her daughter’s maturity and how she loves joining us.”

She says there are times when the friends are able to have a Milly-free get-together, but that’s only during school hours. But weekend meet-ups always include Milly, even though her dad is at home. According to Emily, Milly gets ‘very upset’ when she’s not invited, so Emily gives in and lets her tag along.

“We have had a few occasions where we have met up in restaurants for a meal in the evenings and Milly has often made an appearance, the whole evening ends up revolving round her.

“My other friends said they were fed up with this as well, we stopped inviting Emily as often but she noticed and was hurt.”

So she decided to chat to Emily one-on-one about the situation, trying to work out why Emily insists on bringing Milly to their catch ups.

“I asked if she was being persuaded by her husband to bring Milly and said I was concerned that she never seemed to get time to herself, she insisted that wasn’t the case and said she thought we loved seeing Milly.

“I explained that no one else brought their kids along and wanted adult time and as much as we liked Milly it’s frustrating to get childcare for other kids for a childfree evening then Milly being allowed to come.

“Its not fair on the other kids and changes the dynamic and means Emily has to leave early. We are sick of censoring the conversation and being unable to talk freely. Emily agreed to stop bringing Milly along unless other kids were going to be present.”

The group then decided to book a spa day. The package included a massage treatment, use of the facilities for three hours and afternoon tea with Prosecco.

“I didn’t think not to ask Emily not to bring Milly as surely it’s common sense?!

“Well the spa was booked for 10am and Emily brought Milly. We asked her how she possibly thought this would work and she said Milly wanted to use the pool and we could watch her when Emily had her massage.

“Emily was told by staff she couldn’t being Milly into the spa and got very upset and complained that she’d paid for the day, her husband refused to pick her up saying he’d agreed to work overtime now, Milly started crying hysterically.

“I had no sympathy and told Emily one of the reasons we booked a spa day was in the hope of actually spending time with her alone and we never considered she’d bring Milly. My other friends were equally as unsympathetic and said she had brought this on herself and it was her own fault Milly was upset and if lost the money.

“Emily had to leave with Milly and looked absolutely devastated, she didn’t apologise though she just kept saying how ridiculous it was that the spa wouldn’t let Milly in or make any exceptions.”

After Emily left, the rest of the group decided it was time to stop inviting her as she wasn’t going to stop bringing her daughter.

“One friend has just sent me a message saying Emily has been crying down the phone for hours on her and thinks we were maybe a bit harsh and that Emily said she finds it hard to leave Milly because she gets so upset when she can’t come along. She thinks we should apologise for getting so frustrated with her.

“I think the whole situation is bizarre and if Emily was a struggling single parent I could maybe understand it, I have had enough though and I’m not apologising, I have tried to chat about it but she’s not willing to listen.”

Now the mum wants to know if she’s been unreasonable. Let us know what you think in the comments below.