Reddit user asks if anyone has ever had their father-in-law present in the labour ward.

RavenWing88 wrote, “Hi everyone. I don’t see many posts in hear from guys, so I guess I am a rarity.

My wife came home from her breastfeeding class tonight and told me of an interesting conversation that she had with my step-mum (she went to the class with her). They were discussing the labour team. The hospital she is going to deliver at allows 3 people in the delivery room. I will be there. She is trying to figure out the other 2. Her mum lives in Arizona and won’t be here in time. If she was, she would be in the room. She thought about my sister, but the big fear is that she would get in the way because she herself is a neonatal cardiac nurse. My mum won’t make it down from Northern PA in enough time to get registered. My wife wants my step-mum in there. That leaves one more. She said she is very comfortable and completely okay with my dad being in the room, mainly for me.

I have a heart condition that gets exaggerated with stress and nervousness. Because he has dealt with it for years, my dad really knows how to get me to relax. I was okay with this suggestion until I really started thinking about it. Now I am second guessing her plan. Has anyone ever had their father in law in the room before?”


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  • Just as I was about to have my son (many many years ago) a bell went off & about 7 people I didn’t know came running in (apparently they were training), & to be honest, by that time I really didn’t care who was in the room. I think it’s great that your wife is thinking of you by having your dad there to support you.


  • I wouldn’t feel comfortable, but really the support team is for the husband, the mother has a whole hospital to look after her, when I had my second son, there was a couple who had her husband’s best friend there, I saw him in the hall on the phone afterwards, he was so elated and in tears it was beautiful,


  • If your wife is happy with her father in law present there, why not ?
    The question if other mums would consider having their FIL in the labour ward is actually not interesting, this is something you and your wife have to decide yourself.


  • Obviously it is the expectant Mum’s idea and feels comfortable with the idea. His Dad may not wish to be in the labour room all the time but if he is in there for the baby’s Dad hopefully he can keep him calm.


  • my father in law would.probably k ow how to do it better than me hahah if i was close to him it would be fine. He doesn’t have to be done the business end


  • Personally not, but just because I haven’t enough confidence with him.
    But if his presence is to help the father, I understand completely!!


  • I agree as long as her father in law is there for the husband and not down the delivery end, why not?


  • Not my cup of tea, as long as he is not down the business end, and is there for the husband – why not?


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