A Sydney school has banned students from handing out birthday party invitations because it might hurt other children’s feelings.

The invitation ban is the latest in a push by schools to try to remove anything that could be emotionally distressing to kids, shares Daily Telegraph.

Mosman Public School parents say they now have to collect email addresses of parents to invite them to parties and instruct their children not to discuss any planned festivities.

The school instigated the ban after one child was distressed when they were not invited to a classmate’s party. But one parent said not getting invited to everything was a normal feeling children had to get used to.

“It is going too far, we have to build resilient kids,” she said.

“You (can’t) give birthday invitations by paper (at the school), only by email, and you must tell your children not to talk about the party.”

A new student who was not aware of the policy was caught handing out physical invitations and had them confiscated by the classroom teacher who gave them back to the child’s mother, instructing her to send them to invitees via email.

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As one parent pointed out though, “Are the kids upset they didn’t get invited? Or is it the parents??? Kids are pretty resilient, I think it’s the parents that make the big deal over their kid not getting invited.”

She makes a good point!

Is this going too far?

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  • it is called character building. they gotta learn.


  • Regardless of email instead of paper the kids are going to talk, compare and even make fun of someone who hasn’t gotten an invite. Pretty much a given.


  • Unfortunately kids have to learn that not everyone is going to like them and want to spend time with them. It’s all a part of growing up. I think it’s more the parents who get upset about it.


  • when my son was at primary school the other kids had invites passed around and he didn’t get any. I don’t think he really noticed because of his ASD. He did receive his first birthday invite the year after, and one more after that. When we invited kids, my son wanted to invite the whole class.


  • I reckon it’s definatley parents who get upset as well as kids. If you overhear other mums talking about their kids party, you can feel a tad left out but of course you get over it knowing your kids just aren’t friends! Lol

    I think it’s a little silly not letting kids hand invites out, even sillier that they can’t talk about it!! It’s definitely part of life not getting invited to everything! They will grow up one day having to learn that.


  • A great option for parents especially of younger children when you might need to ask questions / explain or just talk to other parents about something ….. but it’s going to be hard stopping kids talking about it afterwards or even writing about it etc. during class activities which could still make others feel left out.


  • this is tricky especially in this social media age


  • I think it’s important for children to learn early on that rejection is a normal part of life & learn to build resilience skills for life.


  • I can understand how it feels. I felt the same as a child and not receiving an invitiation. It’s not a nice feeling. I understand we want our kids to be more strong etc. but it doesnt change how it makes a child feel. I know because i felt this way as a kid


  • Good intentions… but you can’t expect that children wont talk about it. It is natural that they will be excited about the party and then want to talk about it afterwards.


  • At first i thought…I think for younger grades maybe. Imagine 1 kid not being invited in a class of grade 1 kids. Poor things… Id invite my entire kids class if it were grade 1 to 3 perhaps. But after they are 8years old they need to learn that life isnt going to lay out a red carpet for you every day.

    Hooowever… what id there was a naughty kid. A bully. Then i guess i wouldnt want them to come so.. this is a tough one.


  • I find this to be stupid! Kids unfortunately have to learn that you don’t get invited to everything in life, sometimes life isnt fair!


  • Definitely a life lesson that you won’t get invited to everything. I can understand it from the point of view of a child though. It can be upsetting not being invited. In an ideal world, we would love to be inclusive however there are constraints such as the amount you spend may dictate the number of people invited, or the space you have may not be able to accomodate everyone.
    I do feel that the school gone too far by banning invitations though.


  • This is just stupid! Kids need to learn that they don’t get invited to everything.


  • Agreed that this is going too far. If your child was the only child in the class not to get an invite then this would be an issue.


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