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Imagine giving a co-worker a baby shower gift worth almost $1000, and instead of being grateful, they were angry, because it wasn’t brand new.

It’s the exact scenario one woman found herself in, after she thought she did an amazingly good deed for her co-worker. But it all blew up in her face.

“My co-worker is having a baby in two months,” the woman explained on reddit. “She’s been gushing about the SNOO, bassinet especially after learning more about mine and watching my SNOO work on the nanny cam and how it rocks my baby back to sleep.

“She’s been telling people she really really wanted a SNOO but cannot afford the price tag – which is about US$1,500 for a brand new bassinet. I suggested she can either rent the SNOO or get one second handed on Facebook Marketplace for like between US$900-1100 (which is what I did). She said, it’s still too big of a price tag and not even sure if her baby would like it (some babies do not like the SNOO).”

Snoo Smart Sleeper Bassinet
SNOO Bassinet

 

The woman says her baby has almost outgrown their SNOO and would be finished with it by the time her co-worker has given birth. So she decided to gift her the pricey bassinet.

“So she hosted two baby showers – one at work, and one at home with family/friends. I thought about getting one of the cute onesies from her gift registry – but I also thought a better gift would be to give her our SNOO since we’re done with it. Even as a third hand user, the resale value on Facebook Marketplace would have been easily between US$ 600-900. When she opened my gift, it was a simple congrats card and I wrote on there, ‘We will give you our SNOO in a month’.”

The woman said the SNOO is in great condition with only minor wear and tear.

“Later I found out she was angry at me for throwing her my second/third handed bassinet when I no longer needed it and couldn’t even be decent enough to just buy a $15 onesie. Well, I got pissed, I told her, ‘Fine I’ll keep my SNOO, and sell it on Facebook Marketplace for US$600-900, just thought you would like it since you are always gushing about mine and how it’s too expensive to buy even a second handed one. There is no need to be ungrateful – here, just take $15 instead.’ I put $15 in her hand and walked off.

“Was I an a**hole for giving her a second handed product (in great condition) and calling her ungrateful?”

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  • Not everyone can afford new things.

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  • wow that is so generous

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  • This is super generous and should have been better appreciated.

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  • How ungrateful is she! That is such a generous offer. I don’t get some people.

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  • I notice that this is a ‘co-worker’ and not a friend – that says it all to me. Not your fault at all, just that I imagine a friend would have been more appreciative of the gift. In my day we didn’t even have baby showers.

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  • Very ungrateful. But I probably would have asked her if she wants it first.

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  • I think that’s very generous and if she didn’t like it she could always sell it herself. Otherwise tell someone to their face you’re not happy rather than tslk bad behind their back.

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  • No way are you in the wrong here. What a shame her values are so twisted.

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  • I think anyone else would have been over the moon to receive it. Even if it wasn’t brand new, it still worked just as well as if it was. I’d probably been a bit of a b***h after she said that, then I would have sold it on Facebook Marketplace and made sure she was around when I told everyone how much I got for it. Some people can be so ungrateful

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  • Not the a#$hole at all. You tried to do something nice and it wasn’t good enough of her. Not to mention she could have sold it later on for bank and she was just rude and disrespectful.

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  • I’m a big fan of reduce, reuse, recycle so think that is an awesome gift and a very generous one.

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  • No definitely not the a**hole, I think even if you’d offered to sell it to her cheap she still would’ve refused, there’s nothing wrong with 2nd hand items especially if you’re complaining about a pricey item. At the end of the day they do the same thing whether it’s new or slightly used.

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  • Given the value of even a second hand SNOO bassinet I think she should be grateful for the gift. If she did not want it, she could have easily sold it herself and then used the money to buy something else.

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  • Not at all. I would be ecstatic to be gifted that if that is the item I really wanted. She is just an ungrateful person and doesn’t deserve anything. I feel sorry for her baby and hope that her child doesn’t grow up with the same ungrateful attitude she has. What a kind gesture you wanted to do for her. You would do well to sell it and get some money back on it and use if for something else.

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  • I personally don’t even think gifts should be expected and you should be grateful for anything received! Especially when she never commented on not liking the idea of second hand, just that she still couldn’t afford it.

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