A mother was left “devastated” when her ex-husband got their son’s hair cut without her permission.

Mum posted on parenting forum Mumsnet in the hope of gaining some advice – however, users remained unsympathetic.

The post entitled ‘Ex had my sons hair cut after I begged him not to’ has received hundreds of responses.

The mother says: ‘I have a 4 year old boy and he has (had) longish hair….looked like a little rockstar and people always commented on how good he looked.

‘Anyway, when my xh picked him up last night I said he has his school photo on Wednesday and I’m wanting his hair long for the photo.

‘I got a text this morning saying that he has asked him if he wants his hair cutting and my 4 year old son apparently said, yes, I want to look like a boy. So he booked him in to have it cut this afternoon. (sic)’

‘I text him pleading that he doesn’t get it cut, I rang but he never answered and when he did I begged in tears he didn’t do it, that he just leave it for this weekend and Id get it cut after his photo. He said he’s going to see what my son wants. (sic)’

She added: ‘The thing is, my ex has it in his head that only girls have long hair and boys hair should be short. He is very stereotypical. He’s due to drop my son off at 7pm tonight, and I’m dreading seeing his short hair.

‘I’m going to show a smile for my son and say wow look how handsome you are, but inside I will be heartbroken. (sic)’

The mum posting as 4n0nym0u5, was told she was being unreasonable by fellow users after they discovered that her son had asked to have his haircut, shared Daily Mail.


Do you think this mum overreacted?

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  • Big over reaction by the mum – the young lad wanted his hair cut and the photo will be a normal school photo no matter what, In years to come, the photo will be lucky to see the light of day – worry about the bigger picture and not the little things along the way.


  • There are plenty of things that should be discussed together with your children, regardless of whether they are an ex or not. So bit of a fail there. Who knows the kid may have wanted short hair but felt pressured by Mum to keep it long. But if the kid said he wanted a hair cut, he gets a cut. Bit of an over reaction by the Mum though. The kid will still have adorable school photos regardless of his hair


  • Some schools have regulations re the length of boys’ hair and that girls must have theirs tied back in some way once it reaches a certain length.


  • the boys hair should have been cut, full marks to the father for having it cut.


  • If her son really wanted his hair cut and wasn’t pressured into it then thats fine. Of course his dad should do it if his mum refuses. Its only hair. His mum is being very dramatic.


  • Hair does grow back and the article seems to indicate the child wanted a haircut. Parents do need to agree on decisions and that takes negotiation and common sense by all parties.


  • I can understand her upset. Conflicts and disagreements shouldn’t be played over the heads of our children, not when we’re married, not when we’re divorced.


  • Anything more than a trim needs yo be discussed with both parents and the child if they are old enough to express their wishes.


  • my ex shaved my son bald, he looked like he had been through chemo, I was furious, almost as furious aswhen his mother decided to cut my daughter’s hair


  • I think if it’s beyond a trim and going for a big change then both parents should consult each other.


  • Well, it would have been polite to ask the son TOGETHER what he wanted to do with his hair. I’d probably be a bit cranky in this situation, but it’s the sort of thing I’d get over in half an hour. It’s hardly something that can’t be fixed in the long run – her son can always grow his hair again if he wants.


  • In this case i don’t think a haircut is a big deal, and the father has as much right as the mother, but I do hope they make decisions together in future.


  • I think it’s important parents work together for their kids but if they child wanted it cut and the parents want different things the child should also have a say.


  • A 4 year old boy or girl knows what they like and sometimes talk about it.
    He could be teased for having long hair. Also if the boy’s hair is falling down in his eyes all the time as shown in the photo he could get nasty eye infections from it.


  • I understand that the Mum might feel upset BUT I do think that things like hair length and such should be over to the child and if her son wants his hair cut then he should be allowed to have it cut.


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