Mum dares to ask “would you go on holidays without your kids?” and receives some very encouraging responses.

Sharing online the mum explained, “My husband has been offered an all-expenses paid trip for work and partners are invited.

“If I were to go, with, this would mean 10 days away from the kids (who are 4, 5 and 7 years). I have never even been away from them for one night and I can’t imagine leaving them for so long.

“It’ll be a bit of a juggling act if I go and I will have to ask in-laws and friends to help out. But I am wracked with guilt about even thinking about it. Have you gone on holiday without the kids?

What mums thought

The resounding response that quite surprised us was GO and have fun! There is nothing wrong with a bit of you time every now and then.

Melissa shared, “I went to Queensland for 4 days and my mum had my 4 kids my partner took me away to celebrate me graduating my course I loved it missed the kids but they were 15, 14, 8, and 5 at the time.”

Rach said, “Yes! I went on a 10 day cruise with out my kids and also went to the snow for a week with out them they are 8 and 12 they were in good hands whilst I was gone and a break is good.”

Maureen shared, “Go, it may be the only chance you get… I left mine once with my sister to go overseas with my husband. It was great, l missed them terribly and by the end did cry to come home lol… but it did us all the world of good…”

Cassie said, “Yes! I went on a 10 night cruise, without my then 10 and 2 year old, was the best mental health break ever! And I’ve done regular getaways without them since. They survive, I survive and we’re all better for it when I return.”

Julie wrote, “Go ! Your kids will survive the ten days and you will also and ya all just might appreciate each other even more after and you and hubby deserve some time together also without the kids as this is how ya stay connected.”

“They will survive!!!!”, wrote another mum.

Jill wrote, “Go Girl Go- It’s a NO BRAINER !! Children need to learn to enjoy and trust the other people their parents have chosen to be in their lives- It will also be a learning experience for the children. Not forgetting your Husband is the MOST important person in your life -You will want him there long after the children have flown the nest so enjoy time with him too.”

Join our Facebook discussion below:

  • If you have grandparents it is an easier choice. And depends on your child and family circumstances.


  • If the kids are in safe hands then yes its very good at times for partners to have some alone time away.


  • If it’s a rare thing then why not, everyone needs some time to relax and reset and couples can benefit from time together that they might not get after having kids. For me I would love to go somewhere and do activities my kids either couldn’t do or wouldn’t be interested in. That’s the only time I’d consider going without them. Otherwise a holiday would be with all of us. We’ve never been on one, and I’ve never had one since being an adult.


  • It’s not so much would I go without my kids but more like could I? If they were teenagers, maybe, but I would stress too much if they were younger and that would just ruin my holiday


  • I would absolutely go on holidays without the kids. I sometimes feel as though my life revolves around me getting some time away from them….My parents used to go away each year for business and our grandparents would come and stay to look after us. I loved it! Spending time with nanna and papa was great – nanna would always bake a lot of cakes – and then there would be a massive present haul when mum and dad got back. So it was a win-win!


  • Definitely, its important to factor in couple time too.


  • This sounds like an opportunity of a lifetime and you would be mad not to do it. Get you mum & Dad or siblings to look after your kids [they will enjoy time out from you and being in a different environment too] and enjoy this wonderful opportunity.


  • Absolutely! Each to their own and what you can manage as a family. We didn’t do it, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t have. We’re about to take our first overseas trip without our son who is now 18!!! He will be in charge and have to independently run our home while we’re away. However, we had a supportive family and village who could have looked after our son if we’d had to go away on a holiday. We just chose not to.


  • Definitely go ! This would be a great experience for everyone :)


  • I think they will manage without you, you will enjoy the peace and quiet and come back refreshed and ready to deal with your busy life again.


  • In this ladies circumstance, it’s a work related Benifit, not a planned holiday away from the kids.
    Parents are under so much pressure theses days to constantly do something for their kids, play dates, parties, sport, sport training , concerts, extra school tutoring, getting up early, staying up to get house work done.
    Look how she said it would be a juggle to get them cared for… which just shows how much this mum obviously does.
    Why not treat yourself. I’m sure she will miss the kids very much.
    End of the day, it’s all personal choice


  • Golly, your children will soon not want to come on holiday with you. Personally, we would not have left our children aged that young. We always took them on holiday with us and thoroughly enjoyed the experience. An evening alone occasionally where my parents looked after them but 10 days – never.


  • I can’t remember my mum and dad ever going on holiday without us, yes they went out an evening here and there but that was it. Personally I wouldn’t be happy to go without my kids. Our youngest has Down syndrome and our 9yr old has a Reactive Attachment disorder, these aren’t children you leave easily alone and we have no family living in Australia. My teenagers are too young to look after these two, they need supervision from an adult. This means that at this stage of life I’m not even going an evening out alone with my husband. We just do things together.


  • I just want a dinner with my husband without my baby once in awhile


  • I don’t think I could do it. I would want them to come!


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