Ohh okay so we can teach girls to kick boys in the nuts in self defense but we can’t even tell boys to defend themselves against aggressive girls? Lol FUCK OFF

As a male you think I’d be against it but actually I think it’s every females right take advantage of the balls as it brings a balance to the genders in a way. However over time men and male dominated societies have made women believe its wrong for them to make use of the gift nature gave them and most are to afraid to do it. It’s also seen as very aggressive but it is actually just as effective when used in a light or playful manner as a counter or retaliation. A quick tap or squeeze is a great way to keep most guys in line and if done with a smile or humour can be seen as a prank or play fighting instead of aggression. I’ve been encouraging girls to break the taboo since I was a kid and will let any women up to it practice on mine, but I’ve noticed the percentage of women willing to do it has decreased over the last 10 years and it’s a shame. Men where given balls for your benefit… a gift to all women. Don’t waste it!

It’s a fine line, isn’t it? I don’t agree or disagree, as I can see both sides of the argument and both have validity. We have taught our Punks to use their words, but if they are being physically attacked then they have every right to defend themselves. Maybe not kick someone in the balls, but they can certainly push someone out of their personal space if they are feeling intimidated! In saying that, they teach women to target a man’s sensitive areas if they’re being attacked in self defence classes, is this any different? Being hit on the butt is assault. If an adult did that to them we would call it assault. “But they’re only kids” is NOT an acceptable response. Kids need for us to teach them, it’s our duty. And kids need to learn.

Sometimes some kids just try and make things difficult for other kids, and I’ve told our two to stand up for themselves and not let anyone stop them from having fun in their play time. For example, we always tell our Punks at the playground that if someone is standing on the slide as they’re trying to slide down to politely ask them to move out of the way, and to make sure they’re heard and that the kid knows that they’ll get knocked over if they don’t move. If they don’t move after being asked three times then we tell our girls to just slide down anyway and if the kid gets knocked over in the process then it’s their own fault. Once that happens a couple of times they learn to get out of the way and let other people slide down.

I’ve had a couple of Mother’s approach me after their kid had been knocked over from this and gone crying to them and I’ve told them flat out that their kid was stopping other kids from having fun, that the playground is there for the kids to share and that perhaps they should be keeping an eye on their kids and making sure they’re doing the right thing and playing fairly. I always have an eye on my kids when they’re in the playground, yes it’s a physical break from them but they’re still in my care and I’m still responsible for their behaviour, I’m not just going to sit there and look at my phone or read a book or chat to a mate and let my kids run riot. It’s called parenting, and so many people just can’t be bothered with it these days, for some reason.

I will always promote using words first, but if the situation calls for it, my kids will most certainly use physical defence. As I said before, perhaps kicking them in the balls is a bit much, but certainly pushing someone out of their personal space if they’re being intimidated is quite fine by me.

I agree – teach her to defend herself, but don’t resort to that level of violence quickly.

Hmm very though provoking article – I for one don’t think it is right for a 6 year old girl to be kicking another kid in their private region especially at this age – two wrongs don’t make a right – yet I am drawn to thinking if this girl gets older and a man attacks her in the street, or tries to rape her etc what would her go to defence be? If it was me being attacked I would not hesitate to kick the weakest part of a man to try to free myself – I don’t think kicking in the balls should be ruled out as a line of defence for girls but maybe not when they are 6

the mother should have taken this issue straight to the school and got them to sort it out with those boy’s parents. Usually just getting the parents involved is enough to shame them and mostly the parents have no idea that their kids are behaving like that

We should be teaching anyone to kick anybody else anywhere! She said it, they are breaking the rules. You let the school deal with it properly and if they dont, you kove schools and get real loud about how they ignored boys sexually harassing girls. Violence is not the answer.

Seeing the pain and hurt in your child is very hard and I can understand mums feelings. Personally I try to teach my children not to respond with violence on violence, it will not stop it but increase it.

I agree with the comments so far.

I can understand the mother wanting her child to defend herself against verbal and physical bullying. Bullying is not gender based and some of the comments above regarding gender are just so unhelpful and divisive.

everyone should know how to defend themselves and the appropriate time to use it

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 21 Sep 2017 , 10:51 am

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  I agree – it is always a last resort; but everyone should have the skills to defend themselves in every situation.

The young girl was being bullied then she should be able to defend herself.

Personally I understand the frustration of this mother, but answering to violence with more violence, is not an answer.