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Article ‘Someone Else Announced My Pregnancy At Our Friends Bridal Shower, Is It My Fault?’

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A mum-to-be has been left red-faced after her pregnancy was announced at a friend’s bridal shower – leaving the bride-to-be fuming.

The 31-year-old expecting mum says she was asked to be bridesmaid by her high school friend Abby.

“While we’ve drifted, I was honoured to be a bridesmaid,” she explained. “She asked some of our other high school friends, some of which I haven’t seen since college in person.

“I found out I was pregnant a few weeks ago, but I didn’t want to announce it, as I announced my pregnancy last year to family and friends and then had a miscarriage. I was quite surprised I was pregnant again so soon, but me and my boyfriend was happy and we decided to wait until I was further along to announce to be in the safe side.”

At the bridal shower, Abby’s maid of honour started a drinking game, which the expecting mum said she couldn’t play because she had to get up early for work the next day.

“I thought it was fine, until halfway through my high school friend Jane was quite tipsy and offered me a shot, and I said no I really can’t. She pestered me, and said that she would personally wake me up early tomorrow so it would be fine, but I insisted no.

“She then asked if I was pregnant and I got flustered and said no, but she caught me and said I was a bad liar.”

“She was quite loud and congratulated me and told everyone I was pregnant. I felt really uncomfortable, as I didn’t want to disclose this, and it was Abby’s day not mine.

“Everyone congratulated me there and I brushed it off, thinking people were quite tipsy so they’d probably not even remember tomorrow morning.”

The mum-to-be said she wasn’t having as much as everyone else at the bridal shower and decided to leave first, thinking everything was fine. But apparently, it wasn’t .

“Two days later I got a text from Abby saying she was upset that I announced my pregnancy at her bridal shower. I apologised on text and said I didn’t mean for it to come out, but that Jane had announced it.”

Now she’s wondering if she is somehow in the wrong for allowing the announcement to be made.

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  • Not the place to have an announcement made at someone else’s celebration. Not to mention it wasn’t even their news to share

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  • You absolutely we not in any way in the wrong. Some people just have no filter and should really learn to read the room. Jane is in the wrong for not accepting you didn’t want a drink, pushing you for a reason (no one should have to have a reason to not drink or do anything they do not want to do), and secondly for announcing YOUR pregnancy let alone at someone else’s baby shower.

    I understand your friend getting upset, but she really should have called you and spoke to you over the phone or in person. I find it really bad taste to SMS someone with such sensitive issues like that. Of course she knew your would have felt awful.

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  • That’s really not okay, especially when it’s not your place to make that sort of announcement.

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  • Definitely shouldn’t be announcing someone else’s pregnancy. That’s just plain rude!

    • I agree, it is no one’s place except the person whose news it is.

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  • She wasn’t the one that announced it and her friend should be able to see that. Announcing someone else’s news is not on and that person should be the one apologising.

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  • Such a sad situation. When you lose a baby you want to wait until after 3 months to announce your pregnancy. Very unfair this was announced at her friends bridal shower.

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  • She didn’t do anything wrong. Its a private matter and Jane should not have pushed her into basically revealing it. I’m also disgusted with Jane trying to force her to drink when she had already declined. Just because you like a drink doesn’t mean that everyone else does but that’s beside the point.
    I suggest she contacts Abby and explain the circumstances to why she didn’t want people to know and how upset she is with Jane for doing this.
    But she is the victim here and shouldn’t feel that she is in the wrong though I can understand why she feels this way. Abby needs to have words with Jane not her.

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  • I would be explaining in person to your bride friend so she can see how upset you are that Jane blurted this news out without your permission, do hope all turns out OK for everyone.

    • Yes it would be good if she can have an open and honest conversation with Abby. And it would be good if Jane would have an open and honest conversation with Abby and apologyze too

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  • You poor thing. You have done nothing wrong at all. I’m so sorry someone made that announcement for you. That was so wrong, insensitive and entitled. She has ruined your moment and now caused a further rift with the bride. How dare she.

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  • You’ve done nothing wrong at all. Jane announced it not you and I’ve never understood why people get upset about other people’s good news on “their” day anyway.

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  • Go and see your friend and explain the situation to her and let her know that you wouldn’t have announced your pregnancy that way. The other person is the A** *ole

    • Yes it would be good if she can have an open and honest conversation with Abby. And it would be good if Jane would have an open and honest conversation too with Abby and apologyze

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  • It sounds like circumstances lead to it and it was 100% not her fault. If Abby wants to be mad at someone it should be Jane who literally dragged the secret out of the mum to be.

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  • Not happy Jan(e). It was poor form. But Jane was also half cut. It’s a different position to be put in. Hope it all works out for you and the bride. Good luck.

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  • In very bad taste.

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  • It was ill mannered – but by Jane, not the pregnant woman.

    • I agree. But why than does the article state that the pregnant woman is wondering if she is somehow in the wrong for allowing the announcement to be made. Seems to me she turns around some facts in her mind.

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  • It’s crazy, someone else announced it without permission from the pregnant woman. The bride to be should really be happy for her friend and be a bit more understanding of the situation. The other thing is discussing this in person would be better than texting.

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  • She didnt ALLOW it to be announced at all. The announcement was made without her approval or wishes.
    As someone else has said this person is very rude and I feel immature. You do not push someone into drinking. NO is just that and needs to be accepted. If you wish to drink then go ahead but do not push others. Grow up.

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  • I think it is rude for adults to push people to drink if they have clearly said they don’t want to whether they are pregnant or not. I think the lady was out of line and should have kept her mouth shut, it was none of her business to get involved and really should have just worried about herself and not pestered this lady into telling her.

    • I agree; NO is always NO and people need to show respect.

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  • Encouraging someone to drink when they have made it clear they don’t want to is gross. This isn’t OPs fault. In future, it’s easier to say you’re on antibiotics that would be interfered with if alcohol is mixed. It sucks to have to fib to be left alone.

    • I don’t think the lady should have had to explain herself at all. That lady was out of line

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  • Not your fault at all don’t feel guilty

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