How do you know when your done. Is it as simple as you just dont get clucky or even thinking about having another baby makes you nervous..? This is were i am at in my life and im not sure where i want to go. I really dont feel like i dont want anymore, there are times were i think omg never again but seeing my beautiful 9month old reach his milestones makes me happy but sad that i might not be able to be pregnant and go through these again.

I have a 7yr old boy , 5yr old boy, a 3yr old girl (who has attitude ) and 9 month old boy..for the last couple of months i have become insanely clucky and i can see myself having another baby. But my partner doesnt.

Iv also been told by 2 psychics that im having 2 more babies a girl then a boy and its not far off either, both are very reputable. But i think something is going to happen were it changes things in my life as my partner is dead set against it.. idk what it is, but im scared. my dad got some bad news so i think it has something to do with him?

thanks for reading

Posted by carmenhopkins40, 6th May 2014

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  • wonderful


  • Wow… awesome have 4 kids and still want more. Good luck.


  • i think you’ll just know at the time


  • I had 3 children then got my tubes clamped i ended up divorcing my then husband and remarrying my new husband never had children and we both agreed that neither of us wanted another one till we were about 2 years into our marriage we ended up having to have IVF and now have a little boy (4 years old now) i would love to have another child but know we could never afford another round of IVF.
    I guess what I’m saying is you can never be 100% sure that enough is enough.


  • You are amazing. I feel like I don’t have the patience to have more than I have. My husband always wanted more than 3 but one we had 3 he said ok that is enough.


  • Some mum’s like you could probably have ten kids and feel at home, not feel stressed or overwhelmed. Myself, I wasn’t a natural mum, I had to work really hard at it. My two are 4 and 5. Sleep for eleven hours a night, wipe their own buttoms and shower themselves. That’s my decision made. Good luck.


  • I think you will need a serious sit down talk with your husband and come to a decision that you both agree upon!


  • you will know for sure in your heart when you do not want to have any more children.


  • I don’t want anymore but am looking forward to the day of becoming a grandma. To me I got to the point where I enjoy my sleep, I enjoy my free time, I enjoy being able to relax, I now just love me time when my youngest is at school. I do occasionally babysit for family and just recently had my 6 week old nephew over for the night and he was very good but my hubby and I tagged teamed with everything. The next day the feeling of just being able to relax without any worry was AMAZING.


  • Sounds like an interesting story not sure what sort of advice you are looking for but I would like to think you know when you are done though I have never felt like I am but my youngest is 6 now so thats a big gap, we shall see :)


  • we have 1 and I want atleast 4 :) I think you just need to do what feels right


  • I think as long as you can handle it financially, have as many kids as you want, just make sure its a mutual decision, so there will never be any resentment.


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