Isn’t it funny, how different peoples advice can send you around and around in circles. Much like a puppy chasing it’s tail, hoping to one day catch it. This is how I’ve felt for the last 10 weeks of my 11 week olds life. We had issue after issue with my sons breastfeeding, and no one seemed to be able to help us. We even checked with our friendly local ABA representative and all she could tell me was that he didn’t have a normal tongue tie (thank goodness, one potential problem crossed off the endless list of possibilities), but he could have a posterior tongue tie, or a heap of other problems hindering good breastfeeding. *SIGH*. She then went on to suggest I see a lactation consultant, but the closest ones to us were a great many hours away, were private so would cost big dollars, and it was still possible after all this that I wouldn’t have an answer or a fix as to what exactly was going wrong.
Now my local Child Health ladies, love them to bits, I do, but they also couldn’t originally see anything particularly worrying with our situation. I was often in pain when breastfeeding, he made a weird click that no one could see a cause for from the outside and it was all around horrible but I was battling through it all and had made it to a grand total of 11 weeks in this fashion, scrunching up my toes and nose often or kicking the body pillow I no longer had room for in the bed to take my mind off the searing pain. But at 11 weeks, slight concern was raised. My little ‘pudding’ of a boy, had gone from putting on 500grams per week to having put on just 100 in 2 weeks. Not that this HAS to be a bad thing, he could just be in a lull of growth, it happens all the time. But just those numbers must have been enough to spark belief in just how hard I had been struggling to make it work. At this point they inform me that there is in fact a lactation consultant in town, you just have to know the right people and because she doesn’t do it as a main job (rather midwifing at the hospital full time) it would actually cost us absolutely nothing to see her. *SIGHx2*. AND we could see her the very next day. *should I continue sighing or are you with me now?*
Well that day came and it turns out he has both a very, VERY high palate on top of having a posterior tongue tie the poor dear. Just knowing that there is an actual cause for both our suffering that this isn’t how breastfeeding is MEANT to be and is like for other mothers is a huge relief. It also sheds some light onto why my first son was also terrible at breastfeeding, although we carried on in pain until 4 months, after which he slowly introduced the bottle over the next 2 months.
After all this we are now booked in, just one week later, to have his tongue released by the specialist, as well as his older brother looked at. Even though he is no longer breast or even bottle feeding if he has the same issue it could affect his speech later in life. I am so very glad we’ve eventually at least part gotten to the bottom of my boys problems, and for the mere $200 each to get it corrected can say that I am thrilled
Just a reminder I suppose, to always go with your mummy instinct, it’ll surprise you how much you (on instinct) know!
Posted by angelas2013, 18th April 2013