I used to watch How to Make an American Quilt and thought the answer to marry someone who was like a best friend or someone you were passionate about was easy, friends are for life but passion comes and goes. Having now been married for over 14 years together for close to 20, I think maybe I was wrong. I really feel like I am only living with the father of my children and that my husband has gone forever. We don’t do any couple time, he’s become reticent to communicate and has rarely made changes to better himself, whilst I have worked hard over the years to address many of my foibles to become a better me. I no longer know how long I can put up with the lack of passion.

Posted by colleen b., 19th March 2014

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  • Probably might help to get some counselling


  • get some help lovey… be careful of blaming one party – takes two to tango. He may feel burdened by the need to be the breadwinner, and feel unappreciated too. You didn’t say anything too mean, so tipping love is still there….. Get some help. You will be ok x


  • might I suggest doing the Love Dare. Watch the movie called Fireproof. It works.


  • sorry to hear this I feel for you was in the same boat with my now ex husband and only after he is my ex that I wish I stayed around the grass is not greener on the other side yes it may be for awhile this is true but in the long run wish I could go back 3 years and be with my ex husband


  • I guess there’s no one particular on how to marry the right person for you, I just wanted to know because it’s been awhile if your situation has improved? I hope things are working out for you.


  • the story is exellent


  • Its hard when you see that your the only one trying. I would say talk to him but you have pointed out that he wont communicate


  • I am truly sorry to hear this :(


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