My daughter is 2 and a half and loves her dummy, 3 nights ago my husband and I decided it was time to make the move and to phase the dummy out, I never expected it to be so hard. she cried for 2 hours the first night and woke up a couple of times (which sometimes happens but putting the dummy back in helped straight away where that doesn’t happen now) second night my husband laid down with her and tonight I sat with her for 10 mins and left when she was drowsy. She isn’t getting into that good sleep and seems to need me to just go in, she doesn’t want a hug just my presence and I feel terrible, like I’m a bad mum and that she would have been better off if I just let her have it. I know that it would happen eventually and I have that vibrant, headstrong, determined girl so that it would be hard but I guess I’m so sad to hear her struggling and I’m hoping it doesn’t last much longer. :( My 8 month old son is also teething and is waking up and getting up earlier atm which doesn’t help either. Thanks for listening :)

Posted by golanth99@hotmail.com, 5th October 2013

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  • It took my son about 6 weeks to settle into his no dummy sleep routine. And he still wakes up in the middle of the night to ask for one occasionally. I really think its been one of the biggest parenting challenges so far. It was like having a newborn again.


  • It will get easier and soon it’ll just be a distant memory.


  • We had the dummy fairy where they put it I. The garden and a beautiful book is left and the mummy gone…


  • hi, yes we gave her a new doll, and had a week leading up to no more dummy by telling her that once she is a big girl it won’t taste nice anymore. I think she has been playing us slightly as she is very smart. I will be trying something new tomorrow night in the hopes that she learns to settle better, thank you for your advice :) She was one of those bubs that needed a dummy and I don’t regret her having one, just soooooo hard getting rid of it but we are a week in now :)


  • Have you thought about a dummy ceremony or something? That the dummy fairy has come and taken away your dummy as your a big girl and has left you a doll, colouring book etc, so she can see that the cycle has ended?

    Ps I dread the day we take ours away from bub :/


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