I love being a stay at home mum. I have time to be with my children, prepare them homecooked meals and snacks and ensure the house is tidy, and I’m even studying a degree. However I find myself quite often feeling lonely. The constant constraints of doing things for the children sometimes gets overwhelming. I’ve tried to connect with other mums at the school, at church and in the community but I just don’t seem to be able to develop the relationships. Whilst lonely I wouldn’t change my children or my life – just hoping I can develop some friendships soon.

Posted anonymously, 30th September 2015

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  • yeah i remember with my first daughter , that i was a little lonely but i went to the park and tried to make friends even if it was only for the day lol. It got better and you get out more as bub gets older.


  • Sounds like you are doing a fantastic job with your kids. I’m sure the rest will fall into place for you soon


  • It can be the same when you’re going to work as well. Unfortunately a lot of us are living this treadmill lifestyle these days, where whether or not you stay at home or go to work, there is just so much to do, that it can be hard to find time to make friends. I must say I’m in the same position. I feel for you, it can be very isolating, but never give up. Good people will come along when you least expect it. God bless you


  • I get it, I feel the same. I have always felt my whole life like I just don’t really fit in. I have friends but no one who is really that bestie kind of friend. Sometimes I get lonely too.


  • I am so sorry you feel lonely.
    Maybe you cou;d make friends with your childrens friends parents.
    A good way your kids can interact and yourself.


  • Being a stay at home mum does challenge our adult skills we tend to loose touch with a lot of the one on one adult world, I find I don’t get time out to myself and feel very lonely and like I’m stuck in four walls, try playgroups, even joining sports groups help make new friends school socialisation helps also. Not an easy thing.


  • trying to make friends with other mums at school can be so hard, i have tried myself. But even with my mothers group it took me a long time to fit in. At times i wanted to give up trying but stuck it out. I am glad i did it was well worth it. You could try joining the schoos PTA as that seems to be the parents everyone knows or helping out in the school canteen, or even the local kids toy library( i think a condition of joining it is that you help out a few times a year). Also google ways to make friends locally(not dating sites but meetup groups) my cousin did that she now meets up with over 20 other people every two weeks for a meal. The best bit is they are now her friends sand she meet for herself not for her kids.


  • I’m not sure of your kids ages, but could you organise a play date at the park, and you could sit with other mums while the children play

    • A good idea – a relaxed way to meet parents too.


  • I go through stahes like this too. I hope you feel less lonely soon xx


  • You will find the right fit – but it can take time to develop these relationships. Maybe just choose a couple of people for a coffee morning.


  • Depending on how old your children are can you join a local playgroup or if of school age maybe join the P&C?

    • Good suggestion! Getting involved in your kids schools us a great to meet people and make friends!


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