So basically this family member has decided i offended ger. That i don’t respect her or my own parents. That i am arrogant. My mom told me it’s because when she came over and mom was here to help me when i gave birth to my 2nd, i would say to mum that i was hungry or to serve dinner. She reckons i treated my mum as a servant.
Now my question is why does she think i disrespected my mum when mum doesn’t think so?
Also she is upset with me because
1) last year i was at her house and discussing my eldest’s bday with her son and he asked if i was coming to his daughter’s party. He then turned around and asked her and she said oh so she get asked first and i, the grandma, gets asked 2nd? Then he got upset that she was making a big deal out of this and she pretended she was just joking.
2) she would often ring me at all hours to tell me she had an argument with her son. I would then try and explain to her where her son was coming from and she would then start saying to me that i was taking his side.
3) she insisted i call her my cousin when she is my mum’s cousin and now gets all iffy because i treat her like a buddy. That was her actual words too
4) she used to gush that i was a surrogate daughter as her own daughter moved interstate.
Back in january she told me she needed space so i told her to call me. Then since my youngest was turning one i decided to try and reconnect so i sent her a text explaining that the birthday was coming up and she was welcome to come to the party if she wanted to. I also explained why she had not received a fb invite (because she had blocked me). She replied back that she had already made plans and stressed the part that i said “if she wanted to” in that and added that she would have called me. I replied back that no one got a phone invite and that i was attempting to make peace. I said the ball was in her court and she got very nasty. So i ended up telling her to call me if she needed me and thanked her for the pst and good bye
I told my mum that i was washing my hands of her
Out of reapect for my parents i don’t want to tell her to get the hell out of my life but wondering if i should?
Posted by regine_kong, 26th October 2016