My partner has a touchy relationship with his parents. He comes from a family where it seems to be the norm to cut relatives off for the rest of your life.

So with this foundation to their relationship, it wasn’t exactly well received that his parents didn’t meet our child until he was three months old, and even then spent the visit complaining about the traffic and the fact that they had arrived unannounced and we happened to be out. They didn’t seem much into our son, screwing their noses up like they were holding dog poo for the couple of seconds they held him.

My partner was hurt and angry, as was I. But I said there might be a reason for their behaviour and it we should give them time and see how things developed.

Well, fast forward 18 months and we’ve just come back from a great holiday with them. They doted on their grandson and couldn’t stop telling any of their friends they bumped into all the amazing things he’d been doing over the holiday.

I don’t know what was going on at first, its probably something completely innocent like they’re not comfortable with new babies and/or thought we’d have enough to deal with after our son’s birth without them coming over and intruding. No matter. The important thing is its all working out fine now and we’re so glad we didn’t make a fuss and storm off into the distance as then our son would have been denied a wonderful relationship.

Posted by sallty, 3rd April 2013

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  • It can be very difficult when relationships are strained for some reason, you not always knowing why. If they don’t let you know they are coming, they don’t have the right to complain to you. You need your family’s time with them to be happy Sometimes you need to be able to change the subject of the conversation a few times. You can “let off steam” when they’ve left. Sometimes it feels strange holding a newborn when you haven’t done so for a long time., they feel so tiny, but you soon adapt to the difference in size and give them a cuddle. I was a little wary the first time I held the second one as there is 5 1/2 years difference. It felt strange cuddling him, then cuddling a newborn. She seemed so tiny and melt beautiful……until the little charmer filled her nappy to overflowing…..back to Mum she went as I hadn’t changed a tiny baby for a long time…………It wasn’t long before I did though.


  • I too come from a family where you’re cut off for the smallest reason. My brother refuses to speak to me because of all the stress I caused mum and dad when I was a teen…….over 30 years ago mind you! What’s weird is he says he didn’t like it, but not once did he approach me to see if he could help at the time


  • Glad to hear it worked out for you – working on family relationships is important and it is good to keep those ties.


  • Glad you worked it out…..who knows sometimes what people are thinking. One thing is for sure, life is too short and you can never have too m,any people around you who care about you. I am also glad for them that they didn’t miss out on the wonder of a grandchild.


  • All’s well that ends well, hope your new found relationship with them continues, all the best.


  • it a a great and exellent story


  • Here’s a to a lifelong relationship!


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