My partner has a touchy relationship with his parents. He comes from a family where it seems to be the norm to cut relatives off for the rest of your life.
So with this foundation to their relationship, it wasn’t exactly well received that his parents didn’t meet our child until he was three months old, and even then spent the visit complaining about the traffic and the fact that they had arrived unannounced and we happened to be out. They didn’t seem much into our son, screwing their noses up like they were holding dog poo for the couple of seconds they held him.
My partner was hurt and angry, as was I. But I said there might be a reason for their behaviour and it we should give them time and see how things developed.
Well, fast forward 18 months and we’ve just come back from a great holiday with them. They doted on their grandson and couldn’t stop telling any of their friends they bumped into all the amazing things he’d been doing over the holiday.
I don’t know what was going on at first, its probably something completely innocent like they’re not comfortable with new babies and/or thought we’d have enough to deal with after our son’s birth without them coming over and intruding. No matter. The important thing is its all working out fine now and we’re so glad we didn’t make a fuss and storm off into the distance as then our son would have been denied a wonderful relationship.
Posted by sallty, 3rd April 2013