Please tell me I’m not the only one that notices changes with my partners mother once we had the kids and even more when we got engaged. How do others approach visits by their little ones nanny when they live in the same town.

I’ve been struggling for 2yrs to get my mother in law to visit at times that suit the kids best with not the best results. By this I mean every visit is right on bed time. She doesn’t work full time so there is plenty of daylight opportunities to see her grandsons (they’re aged 2 and 9mths) and then when she does visit she stays a whole 10 minutes. her departure is really starting to upset our 2yr old. I have mentioned on numerous occasions that she is welcome to call when she finishes work but that lasts one day and we’re back to where we were in the first place. Any advice is welcome it’s putting the boys out of routine too much and really getting on my nerves

Posted by flicky84, 30th May 2013

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  • Can you get your partner to talk to her about it and make sure he tells her she is upsetting her grandson??? Surely he will stand up for his own son. Let him really tell her off if he wants to. Maybe make a sign and attach it to the door. You definitely need your partner’s support with this. Hopefully he won’t mention your name at all or admit that you are sick of the episodes.
    I made one but not for that reason. I put on it. “Please do NOT ring door bell”.
    If that doesn’t work you could also put “Please do NOT disturb” either on the same one or a different sign. I know somebody who was sick of being pestered by certain people and sales people too. They put a sign on their door and front window. Visit by appt. only. You will still get electricity and gas meter readers call if your meters are behind a gate, or if you are in a old house your electricity meter might still be inside.


  • great story to read


  • it a a great and exellent story


  • MIL, lol! How did you go?


  • Oh I hear ya! My MIL has made a huge change for the worst recently!


  • Dont put the boys out of their routine for her. If she wanted to see them and spend quality time she would make the effort and be there at a reasonable hr

    • Good point, especially if she knows when bedtime is.


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